I m a good looking girl and I m sure I haven't got a bad breath but sometimes (many times during a week) my boyfriend just won't kiss me with no obvious reason.
We haven't been together for too long so it isen't the case that the relation is fading.
I will give an example. Sometimes we are watching tv together and I go towards him to kiss him but he just avoids that, I think that maybe he didn't understand and I tell him I wanna kiss him but he just avoids me.
Last night we went out to a bar and were talking and dancing but again when I try to kiss him he refuses kissing me.
I talked to him about it but he says that he is not obliged to kiss me anytime I want.
I m sure I m a very attractive and nice girl so there is no reason for him to behave like this to me.
I really like him a lot but I m considering to leave him because of this things he does.
What should I do? What do you think is wrong with him?
2007-12-14 04:48:27 · 58 answers · asked by anna_bananna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's got issues, girl! Trade him in for a guy who will give you the affection you crave!
2007-12-14 04:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on how long the two of you have been seeing each other. He may be trying to take it slow, or maybe he doesn't like to kiss in public. He could be afraid of commitment, a lot of men are and they would never admit to it.
BUT - if he is actually saying "I am not obliged to kiss you anytime you want me to", I mean in those exact words or similar, then you need to make it absolutely clear to him that he needs to meet your requirements or else he's gonna get kicked to the curb.
The beginning of a relationship is an important time. If you don't tell him what you want now then he will get set in his ways and be that way forever. You need to tell him what you want and if he is not ok with that then you obviously need someone else. Of course, you should never be pushy, and you should listen to his point of view also. A good approach is to ask him why he does not want you to kiss him during those times. Ask if it makes him feel uncomfortable, and when he would rather you do it. Then tell him about how you like to show affection and that it is how you are. Ask what his opinions are on the matter.
The key is to say what your feelings are and immediately following by asking what his are. Do not accuse. This is a good way to recieve a "f**k you" type of response.
If you really like him then take your time with the conversation, it might take a couple nights - switch it up: over dinner, sitting on a dock, in the car - never do it drunk, never do it in bed.
Good luck!!!
2007-12-14 05:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by singingbluefae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt sound like an affectionate guy to me from what you say.....my ex husband (emphasis on the 'ex'!!) used to keep his eyes open and avoid my gaze completely...and would sometimes carry on watching tv...
Ask him what his problem is with you wanting to kiss him...make your decision based on the answer he gives you - hey does my breath stink or something...make light of it and joke with him
It could be that you are quite affectionate and hes simply uncomfortable with that for some reason...as you say, you havent been together that long so it could be that hes not the sort to go around kissing all the time....
If you need that and hes not going to give it to you...can you carry on like that cos its will eventually become a big problem for you guys...good luck : )
2007-12-14 04:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by sweetnlow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this don't sound normal to me he has got to have something wrong with him cause if im with a girl i will kiss her any time i can and i think most guys will agree too. kissing is a very big part of a good relationship..and if he don't want to kiss you its got to be him and not you...so id say move on he is not normal....i could see if you have been together a long time but even that wouldn't be normal either...get rid of him and find a guy that loves kissing you...
2007-12-14 04:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rejection sucks, even wen it is just 4 a kiss. maybe his last gf was very cliny, and he is just trying to make sure in the early stages that he isnt gunna put up with it from you. i think personally, hes just a very independant guy and doesnt wanna feel owned, getting a kiss off him everytime YOU want makes him feel pressured or something. if i were you, i wud b more greedy with my kisses, stop making the first move and he will come to you wen he wants to, have patience with him hun dnt leave him yet. it also cud possibly b about sex, if you havent slept with him yet i mean. he mayb sees kissing as sumthing that will lead to something else he isnt ready 4, so hes backin off a bit. dnt take it too personal, if he didnt want you he wudnt b with you xx
2007-12-14 04:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's worried about his breath. And there are a lot of guys that don't like kissing and clinging. I, for one, would not do anything more than hold hands in public. The rest is a private thing. I don't enjoy seeing people fondle each other in public.
2007-12-14 04:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thinks he's got bad breath.. i remember one time i thought the same... and when mt GF wanted to kiss, i kept em very brief and just little pecks at that.. what i would have given for a mint at that time!
other than that if hes not worried about the breath, then maybe he's not comfortable with the intimacy, the relationship or maybe hes pissed off at you for some reason..
either way it sounds like you want more that he wants to give.. id start looking.
2007-12-14 04:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he just feels as if youre smothering him,just leave it for a while and see how long it is before he makes the first move to kiss you(I dont mean in bed).If he doesnt it just means he is not that kind of bloke.If you dont like it then dump him.because I doubt you could change him.x
2007-12-14 04:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by bella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was about to say does he think he has bad breath but reading this I'd say it's a power kick this guy is on but he doesn't want to make it obvious. On the other hand he could just want to kisses when it special... so kissing doesn't loose it's spark.
2007-12-14 04:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by K.S. THiS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does every minute you are with him have to have a kiss?
Maybe he's just not into public displays of affection. That's not abnormal and I wish more people would stop tonguing each other in public.
I would suggest talking to him and stop taking it so personal. And visit the dentist to make sure.
2007-12-14 04:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with him. He's probably just not a very affectionate person. For some guys, they just don't like the lovey-dovey thing, especially in public. If it really bothers you and he won't change, you'll either have to just deal with it the best you can, or move on.
2007-12-14 04:52:25 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋