What sort of things make you a cheat? well i know its sleeping with some one(top one) what about if your partner kisses some one/talks dirty to some one on the internet/flirt all that stuff...also how many of you think its ok to do some of these things and think its not really cheating? its just a question,nothing about me lol...interesting subject also.....well i think all of these things mean cheating!
2007-12-14 04:47:28 · 45 answers · asked by london-fem 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My personal opinion is that cheating is doing anything that you know that your partner would not agree with behind their back. Lots of folks think that innocent flirting etc. is not harmful but it can lead to many dangerous situations and at times send out the wrong signals, so it can also be a form a cheating at times.
2007-12-14 05:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, i've given up on what's cheating and not cheating. I find that talking dirty on the internet is most definately cheating and kissing is cheating. but you know what? i've come to a point in my life that i just don't care anymore...i'm sicking of fighting and wondering and accusing my bf. if he's gonna do it he's gonna do whether i beat him up about or i just don't say anything about it. the only thing i ask of him is: 1) don't bring a chick home while im not there..that's off limits (lol or even when i am *wink* b/c it's NOT gonna happen) and 2) don't be stupid about the cheating..meaing don't let me find out about...so i don't want no ho's calling me up or myspacing or IM'ing me with some drama shiit and 3) wear a condom...b/c if you bring something funky home to me i swear i will lorrainna bobbit you! and 4) I won't ask you where you've been if you don't ask me where i've been....if we don't ask we don't have to lie.
it seems to be working out just fine. this relationship has been on of the best i've been in. we have respect for each other...there's NO arguing and fighting and bickering(well maybe over who's turn it is to clean up after dinner lol) and we're very loving to each other. I don't know for 100% if he has cheated and i know i haven't cheated...and guess what? i don't want to know. it will just ruin everything we have right now.
2007-12-14 04:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me "cheating" is doing something secretly because you know that your partner would be upset about that action if they knew. The things on your list don't constitute "cheating", per se, but may be activities that a paticular individual might not want their partner to indulge in with anybody else.
Therefore, if your partner doesn't mind a bit of flirting online - or in real life then it's not cheating them. If you keep it to yourself because you know they'd be upset by it then it is.
People should consider more the type of person they become emotionally involved with. If one of you is flirtatious and the other is traditional or jealous, there's an imediate mismatch of personality.
If you both enjoy a bit of extra curricular activity and are okay with it then you're both going to be happy (unless one of you can't pull).
2007-12-14 04:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating but it depends on the couple. Some couples think talking on the internet is fine just if you don't go meet them and some are like all is cheating. I think it is cheating but it all depends on how the couple defines cheating in their own way. I know there are some out there that are loose about this subject.
2007-12-14 04:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by runner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are all cheating..
If a man has dirty thoughts about another woman, it's said to be cheating (it's in the bible ya'll!)(seriously)..
so talking dirty, kissing, etc, all those may seem innocent in a guys mind (cuz they can be dumb,but i guess girls do it to) but if the act of doing so hurts your partner, then it's cheating..
2007-12-14 04:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they constitute as cheating! Any type of sex (online, in person, over the phone) is cheating. Dirty e-mails are cheating, kissing someone else is cheating. A good rule of thumb to me is that if my man could see me right now doing what I'm doing and they'd be fine with it, then it's fine. Within reason of course!
2007-12-14 04:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question! Ok we as human beings have our values and characters that we got growing up in the world, as we grow we develope different aspects of life and different definitions of things. I may think my girl kissing another woman is cheating but my best friend my not think so, I think flirting is something to do to make the day go by quicker and happier but my girlfriend my think its cheating or inappropriate so it all depends on you and your partner and ya'lls values! Its soley on you two!
2007-12-14 04:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me cheating can be talking in a sexually way with someone else... flirtting is not like really cheating cuz everyone flirts but it's not a good thing to flirt though.. I feel guilty when I do... kissing is cheating too OF course... and sex.. well I dont have to tell you it's cheating cuz it's obvious
2007-12-14 04:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to other people is ok, even a little bit of flirting as long as it doesn't go further then that it's ok.
But anything after flirting, like talking about having sex or anything of the sort, or kissing someone else, is considered cheating.
2007-12-14 04:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think like this......If the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel? If you can't come out and say to your partner exactly what was said or done then it should not have been said or done. Just put yourself on the other side. But yes I think all that stuff would be cheating.
2007-12-14 04:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋