My Roomate's Girlfriend Hates Me?

Question

Because I told him she was to old for him. He is 25
and she is 40. She says I am in the apartment too much and that he does not feel comfortable having sex with me there. What should I do? I also told him he should have not discussed my private comments with her. Do you agree?

Answer 1

yes i agree..

Answer 2

About the private comments, whenever I say something about someone's gf/bf/spouse, it is safe to assume that the information will be passed along to that person! Don't say anything about someone that you don't want them to know you said, you should have learned that a long time ago. However, if you are paying your share of the rent, and the girlfriend is not, then she should not be saying you are in the apartment too much! What you should do is discuss your concerns with your roommate, suggest:
#1 That he move out and live w/ his girlfriend somewhere else.
#2 The girlfriend move in and take over your share of the rent because you are moving out.
#3 That you stay how you currently are, with guidelines regarding sex, visitors, etc.

If your roommate is happy with this woman, a 15 year age difference is pretty insignificant and is really none of your business. Men generally don't live as long as women anyway, so a woman that much older isn't really an issue- and if it is, it is an issue for the two of them to take into consideration. Sorry, but it sounds like you started this one, by stating an opinion about the woman this guy is with. Now she is retaliating. Good luck, I hope you get things sorted out.

Answer 3

It's you room too so you're entitled to be there as much and as long as you want. She's not paying the rent! If she's 40 she should have her own place. Why don't they have sex at HER house?! Personally, I think she's too old for him too. You're right that he shouldn't have told her! He REALLY showed his age with that dumb move! But if the two of you have an understanding that you both will not discuss private comments especially if it's about the other dude's gf then that the first step to it not happening again.

P.S: I don't feel that you owe her an apology. First of all, the comment wasn't for her ears. Second of all, it's your personally opinion. You think what you think and there's no fault in that.

Answer 4

Your roommate has to understand that it is YOUR apartment too. This is where you live. He can't make you leave just because he wants to have sex with his girlfriend. And yes, I agree that he should have kept what you said to himself. I am not sure if you were good friends with him or not when you moved in together, but his actions could be ruining your friendship. It almost sounds like he is throwing you to the side because now he has her. That isn't fair or right. I would talk to him about his lack of respect for you. He wouldn't want you asking him to leave so you can have sex. All they have to do is turn on some loud music, and you won't even know.

Answer 5

Yes, I agree. This was a private conversation between you and your friend. And what does she expect anyway? She is 40 years old...Chances are dating a 25 year old would mean he has a roommate. I am also going to assume that he asked you if you thought she was too old for him. If he did, then for sure he should have not discussed it. Because if he did ask you, on some level, he thinks she might be too old for him too. Otherwise he wouldn't care to ask your opinion.

Answer 6

oh, leave Ashton and Demi alone.

It's alright to feel betrayed by your roommate, but there's something that you need to be aware of: When couples are serious about each other, they share everything. So if you don't want a friend's SO to know something, then don't tell the friend anything.

So now you have to decide if your friendship is salvageable or if you want it to be. If you want to keep the friendship, then apologize to both of them. Be honest with the woman, tell her you are sorry if she was offended, but she wouldn't be your choice and you just don't get the attraction. and then make a real effort to treat her as you would anyone he would date and is serious about. His choice of a partner isn't a reflection on you, it's all about him and his issues.

If you can't find it in you to make an effort or be civil, then it's time to find a new place to live.

edit: forgot to address the apartment issue. You can tell her too damn bad on that point. You live there, it is your home you pay rent and she doesn't. You have more of a right to be there than she does. If she wants more privacy to go to her place or to a hotel.

Answer 7

As much as it was a private comment it seems like he likes her. Age should not matter as long as your not breaking the law. As for the comment your in the apt to much I would have said back I PAY RENT I LIVE HERE!!! She should have never said that. If they go in the room and close the door what does it matter if ya are there when they have sex. (enless she dominates him and hes scared for his buddies to find out.) They way you put it she does sound a bit controlling. I think you all need to talk and work things out. If not I think ya should possible think of getting another residence only because things might get worse. (menapase is coming LOL) GL

Answer 8

I really don't thinks she hates you that's a very stong word but to make things better on you and your situation it wouldn't hurt you to eat a little crow,
Let them both know that you are sorry. That you spoke about something that wasn't any of your business. and that it won't happen again. also let them know that you should have respected them, then let them have time alone you know for sex. Or you might find yourself moving out because they don't want you around interupting things Save the friendship first thats what counts the most. Then stay out of their business I really don't think that they have all that good of a relationship either, It's just sex and now that they know how you feel thay might try to get your goat (LOL) but don't let anyone do that,.

Answer 9

How long do you think the relationship will last? You have as much right to be in your apartment as he does. It doesn't seem fair for her to say that you are in the apartment too much considering you pay to live there. Perhaps they should go somewhere else. If you are good friends with this guy, you should be able to share your opinions with him. It doesn't sound like he is respecting your friendship by sharing your comments with her.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

yeah that was defiantly bad for him to discuss what you said to him in confidence to her and really if she's 40 years old she should have her own place and they should have sex there and she some nerve saying that you're there too much, you pay rent and she doesn't. You friend should tell her where she can put her opinions... Isn't there a saying like "Bros before Hoes"? Yeah well this one needs to apply I think she's going to be controlling..