How much should I expect for compinsation for the first time suro mom with singletons and with multipuls. Thanks for the help. Hugs Kuka
2007-12-14 03:42:04 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
OK LOOK PEOPLE i AM 33 YEARS OLD. I HAVE KIDS I'M NOT DOING THIS FOR THE MONEY AND I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT. OF COURSE I'LL BE ATTACHED TO THE BABY, BUT THE BABY IS NOT MINE. SO I'LL MISS IT BUT IT BELONGS TO IT'S PARENTS NOT ME.
2007-12-14 04:15:45 · update #1
As someone who considered getting a "suro mom" I want you to think about something b4 you decide to do it.
The child you carry, even though is not your own, will have your blood running through its veins. You will feel the baby move and grow. In my opinion it takes an amazing person to be able to do such a wonderful thing. I am all for surrogate mothers because it was so hard for me to conceive.
The last thing on your mind should be the compensation. The first thing should be about helping someone who can't conceive on their own. Not how much they will pay you!!
Please re-think your ideas and expectations of doing something like this. It will be a major blessing to the receiving couple but it will be extremely hard on you as well. Are you willing to trully make the sacrifices?
Added thought:
If you didn't want opinions you shouldn't post your question!!!
2007-12-14 03:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by nailmagik 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Kuka, are you ready for all the time commitments you'll have? Doctor visits, nausea and all its little friends? Missed work and income? Were your other pregnancies all that wonderful? I seem to remember that that first one was a major hoot, hon.
I considered this several (we're talking decades, here) years ago, and decided against it. Not just for the "I'd probably love the baby too much, even tho she's someone else's", but for the toll it would take on my body. Yes, you're 33, and your youngest is going on 4, right? But who knows what's gone on down thar in four years.
If you check out well with the gyne and have talked extensively to your significant other on the impact it would have on you, as well as cleared your motives and expectations in your own heart and mind, then what the hey, forge ahead with love and blessings from Julia and Andy!
2007-12-14 04:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by julia2654 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there Kuka,
I think what you are doing is a wonderful thing and you must be quite an amazing person to want to help people out like you are. There are lots of people out there that would love to carry children but cannot. Bless you. I assume you are going through a clinic to do this? Speak with the parents and work with them on their budget. Remember that this is an enormous "favor" and do not short yourself any money, even if you are just doing it out of the goodnessof your heart. Remember that you are putting your time, effort, health, family etc on the line. this is huge. good luck to you.
2007-12-14 06:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by HellzBellz08 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how much they pay but when one of my friends did this the people paid her insurance and all medical costs plus they bought her maternity clothes and payed her as though she was working a full time job. Your a great person to do this, and if you use someone elses eggs it's easier because then it's not really yours. My friend loved it (she wants to do it again) but her older kids knew from the start it wasn't their family though and her hubby was super supportive. Good luck.
2007-12-14 07:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Your Mom Says Hi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be sure that what ever compensation you get will cover any expenses you encounter for the medical treatment. Costs of seeing the doctor can be expensive. Even with insurance, some times you will still be required to make out of pocket co-payments. Your best bet is to consult an attorney.
2007-12-14 04:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My friend was a surrogate baby.
She's never gotten over the trauma of being separated from her mother, she feels like she was "sold". It has been very painful for her. I hope you think about the possible implications for the baby, as well.
Just a thought, not trying to be mean.
2007-12-14 05:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lillie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know babe...I just want to say that I think you are doing a wonderful thing!!! I really admire you for doing such a noble thing for a couple that can't conceive on their own!!! Kudos to YOU!!! *Big Hugs* =D
2007-12-14 07:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by F-1 says KISS IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're doing it for the money, then think again. Pregnancy is not a joke, nor is it easy. Seriously consider what you are going to put your body through, and not even for your own child.
2007-12-14 03:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by Melinda 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Consult an attorney. You have to cover your medical expenses.
2007-12-14 03:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by kathy s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Up to 30,000 in the U.S......
but be very careful...you might get attached to the baby and will not surprised me if you end up keeping it.........
2007-12-14 03:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by MrRight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋