Hi, I'm going to get married and plan to have to kids. I hear from some people that to be able to give the kids a more comfortable life, we should distance the intervals of their conception a bit. In your opinion, what is the ideal interval for their conception?
2007-12-14 03:26:04 · 11 answers · asked by J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My kids are 5 (almost 6 really) years apart. I LOVE it!! My 5 yr old is not needy, has no jealousy issues, and if I need to rest a little he can play by himself. I would wait at least 3-4 years between kids.
Oh, another nice thing about an age gap, my firstborn is in kindergarten, so I get 4 hrs a day to focus just on my baby.
2007-12-14 03:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
Remember that nature plays a part in your family planning and it is always possible that you may conceive before or after you are planning to! It's best to be a bit flexible and prepared for the unexpected - for example, it's possible that you might have a "difficult" baby and decide that you don't want another, or you might have triplets the first time!
Assuming that you do have 2 children, as you plan, ideally you might want the first one out of nappies before the second one arrives, but people do manage perfectly well and raise happy, healthy children even when they have their babies very close together, or twins! If you nurse your first for a long time, then you may find that your children are naturally spaced by 2-3 years, because nursing can reduce fertility.
I'm a bit worried that your aim is to give your children "a more comfortable life". More comfortable in what respect? That you can afford to buy them more toys? It's good for children to share, and more "stuff" doesn't equate to happiness! Giving them more of your time and attention is a good aim, but you can do it whatever the ages of your children are. A friend told me just yesterday "they don't get less demandingas they get older , it's just that their demands are different."
Best wishes!
2007-12-14 03:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cathy T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this is up to you and your husband, really. What is ideal for my family, may not be ideal for yours.
My brother and I were spaced by 5 years. I have always respected this interval and think it was really positive. I got 5 years of being the baby in the family and also when I went to college, my parents did not have 2 tuition payments at the same time. Plus, they had a full year during my brother's senior year when neither of us were in college (I took a break between my bachelor's and master's degree) to recoup and save a little bit before my brother went on to college.
If you're planning on both of your children attending college, particularly an expensive one (I went to a private university, my brother went to state), the farther they are spaced out the better you will be financially when they do get to college.
My brother and I have always been close and there wasn't too much sibling rivalry when we were younger. I plan on spacing my own children by a similar time table.
~Raja
2007-12-14 03:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 1/2 year old and am now 13 weeks with my second. I wish I'd have had the second sooner here's why...
After a child is about 2 years old they start to become more independent. They start to dress themselfs, they feed themselves, they bathe themselves, put their own coat on, go potty on the toilet, stuff like that. Going from a child that is pretty much self sufficient in the everyday things to a baby stinks! LOL... I'm looking forward to a baby, but dreading the next two years of diapers, feeding, holding, taking 20 minitues to get out the door, bottles, waking up at night, stuff that babies come with. I know it sounds silly to dread these things but honestly after being spoiled by just being able to tell my daughter we need to get our coats on or get dressed your clothes are on the bed, it stinks to know that those days are once again over. Thou I'm sure I will not mind one bit when the baby is here. On the flip side, my daughter I'm sure will be a huge help with things too. But like I said I would have spaced it at 2 years.
2007-12-14 03:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Missy M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a mother of four and my children all have two and haalf years between them and it seems to work. But if i could do it all again i would have waited till the first one had started school before having another just so i could have enjoyed having one child at home in the day and not having to share my time so much. But having said that i do manage to have quality time with them all. If i was you i would have the first and then just see how you feel after that you may feel ready to have one straight after it might take you a while to feel ready to have another. Good luck with the wedding i get married next august i cant wait.
2007-12-14 03:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by rachrara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is possibly an appropriate age hollow. My brother and that i are 4 years aside (it grew to become into basically meant to be 2, yet my mom and dad had to objective for a twelve months before ultimately getting pregnant with him). i think of it grew to become into hard on the two one human beings by using fact he hated having to attend 4 years to do the flaws I have been given to do first. And whilst i grew to become into youthful i could no longer circulate some places without bringing him alongside. We did play mutually, yet when I reached 10 or 11 the age distinction grew to grow to be greater of a situation from then on. we are close now, yet did no longer have a great relationship until i grew to become into out of highschool. Our age hollow possibly could have been greater handy if we've been the two the same intercourse. in spite of the undeniable fact that it somewhat is a sturdy journey having a brother by using fact all my associates have been ladies.
2016-11-26 23:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 8 year old and a 4 year old. I would say 4 to five years . In my case when I had my second child my first one had started pre-k and was already pretty independent, meaning he could get dressed and eat all by himself and would help out with the baby by getting diapers and stuff like that. I think closer than 4 years is crazy, way to much to handle. Congrats and good luck!!!
2007-12-14 03:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say 2 or so years in between. That way they mature and go through the same things around the same time, but by age two with the first you'd be ready for a second.
2007-12-14 03:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 month old and want another one when she is 3
2007-12-14 03:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by SWILL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter will be 3 in april and im expecting baby number two in jaunary and i think this'll be quite a nice age gap..i hope! me and my brother were 7 yrs apart and from experience is way too much,we NEVER got on,and its sad especially when i see my husband and brother in law who are 3yrs gap get on so so well...so my opinion is dont leave it too long
2007-12-14 03:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋