He almost lost his job cause he cant get to work on time. He cant pay his bills and gets off owrk at 4 or 4:30 and is TOO tired to come to my house to see me.
I am not giving him any more $$ or helping him or anything. How can I make this boy responsible or grow up?
I have thought about telling him I am quitting my job and he should find a way to take care of us so I can go back to school.
2007-12-14 03:14:42 · 16 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah he would Vilma, why do you think I am in debt and have to work so much? Not my bills.
2007-12-14 04:00:54 · update #1
Wrong answer you have a point and I have seen it. It must suck for guys.
But honestly I would love for him to take me out or something without me having to pay for it. He uses and abuses me and does not appreciate me.
2007-12-14 04:02:30 · update #2
Now you know how a man feels.
Be a real woman!
Buck up.
Although, this is going to be interesting to read all the girls responses with their DOUBLE STANDARD Cliches because this one woman has to work. I am going to revisit this one and count the harsh comments. What ever happened to the SAME STANDARD RULE and everything should be equal... like with Title 9? Maybe this is proof that things are not really equal and never have been.
I wonder what would happen if men treated women the way these women are tellinig this woman to treat this man?
Here are some interesting facts by an U of Texas study 2006. Over 70% of college students in the US are female, but over 80% of the people in the work force are male. Imagine that? Only 20% of the US workforce is female!
And what really sucks is that women think nothing to blow our hard earned money at the malls on crap.
Good luck.
2007-12-14 03:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wrong Answer 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You can lead a horse to water but you can not make it drink. He is going to be lazy until he decides to change. The only thing that is going to make that happen is by you leaving him and telling him to call you when gets a clue. Quitting your job is going to hurt both of you because he is not man enough to step up to the challenge. So then you will have no money for school and will be S.O.L. looking for another job when he couldn't cut it and provide.
I would leave him, save up some money, apply for some grants/loans and go back to school and work part-time if possible. Trust me, he is not going to change. I have a friend of mine that has been married to guy like this for 5 years now. She is absolutely ecstatic if he empties the dishwasher without having ask him more than two times. Does not sound like a fun life if you ask me.
2007-12-14 03:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you both live in separate houses, then his not paying bills shouldn't be your problem or concern. They are his bills. They aren't your bills. You cannot make someone grow up or be responsible. You are his girlfriend. You aren't his mom. You really need to sit down and talk with him that this stuff bothers you. If he doesn't want to change, then you should consider moving on.
2007-12-14 06:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound selfish and self-centered.
Why don't you talk about the shared love you two have? Money is the curse of this world. Are you a materialistic whore to money when people are really what is important in this world? I do not think he would do all these mean things to you or abandon you if the situation was reversed.
Why don't you try counsiling? Until then, here is a link that should help with your lack of communication skills when dealing with this and other conflicts.
http://www.angriesout.com/fairfigh.htm
Think about it.
2007-12-14 03:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah! sounds like fun! Take some time off work, dont tell him you've booked it as holiday. Slob around the place, make like you just cant be bothered anymore (act like him basically!) Tell him you got sacked for something and ask him for money, tell him you've got to sell your car and you'll need him to give you lifts to the welfar office so you can collect your check! He knows you are a responsible person so you'll have to be really convincing to get him to believe it. Let us know what happens whatever you do!
2007-12-14 03:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give him any threats he'll only get bad and think your nagging. Remember girls always mature sonner that boys! I'd sya just sit him down and explain what your feeling, like you can't do this relationship on your own ,and if he doesn't want to make the situation better by changing, then i think you need to move on. Your probably to good for him and he knows he can take advantage of you!
2007-12-14 03:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by z 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think star 69 has a real good idea. I was going to say something similiar, but she said it all, give him a taste of his own medicine type thing. Life is too short to spend it with someone who is only making your life harder.
2007-12-14 03:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop supporting him, make him learn to support himself, when he gets booted out of his house and starts losing access to the utilities when he doesn't pay the bills, he'll wise up real fast
2017-01-30 13:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were the apple of his eye he would find time to see you.unless he has a physical problem that makes him that tired or is 70 years old he is only using you.find someone more like you.
2007-12-14 03:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mac 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow problem here
you cant make him responsible thats something he has to do himself they only thing you can do is to push him in the right derection and make him do the right thing
try telling him you need a provider not a slack *** it might make him think if he really loves you mayby he sould do something about it insed of losing you.....
hope it helps
2007-12-14 03:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋