My boyfriend has been working a lot of overtime this week so he has been coming home way later at night than me when I get off work, well last night I stayed at work about an hour after I got off talking to my cousin because she needed someone to talk to, he tried calling (which he hasn't done all week) I didn't answer because my phone was in my purse in the car, he tried calling for like 30 min then when I was leaving I answered and he asked what I was doing and I said leaving work now, he said why and I told him that I was talking to my cousin he yelled you ******* liar and hung up, when I got home he didn't say a word so I took a shower, when I got out of the shower he was asleep on the couch, he didn't even come to bed he stayed on the couch all night. Then he didn't even wake me and hug and kiss me goodbye before he left for work like usual. I texted him a little while later cause I couldn't get back to sleep and I said I love you, he never texted back. see more details
2007-12-14 02:29:09 · 6 answers · asked by coronaqt2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has came home from work later that he has told me before, and he has also came home form his mom's house real late and I have never acted like that to him? I tried being the better person by sending that text to him this morning. Is this fair? How should I act when I get home tonight? I don't want to bring it up because he'll get mad and say I'm tring to fight or argue. But my cousin did text him last night apoligizing for holding me up but she had needed someone to talk to. 2
2007-12-14 02:32:20 · update #1
He has came home from work later that he has told me before, and he has also came home form his mom's house real late and I have never acted like that to him? I tried being the better person by sending that text to him this morning. Is this fair? How should I act when I get home tonight? I don't want to bring it up because he'll get mad and say I'm tring to fight or argue. But my cousin did text him last night apoligizing for holding me up but she had needed someone to talk to.
2007-12-14 02:33:17 · update #2
perhaps all of his overtime is not really overtime and he has a guilty conscience and has assumed since he's playing around you must be too.
unless of course you have fooled around on him before then it's him not trusting you because you wouldn't answer your phone.
Sit him down when he comes home and calmly ask him what is going on with him? Tell him his outburst and mistreatment of you is way out of character and you have never treated him like this when he's been late or not come home when he said he would be home. Ask him why he would think such horrible things about you when he knows who you are and that you love him and would never cheat on him. Also inform him that if you were going to see other men that you would break up with him before you went out with anyone else.
See what his response is to that. So far in your post your have named several classic signs of a cheating partner: constantly working late, not coming home when he said he was, out of the blue accusing you of cheating. When you talk to him, DO NOT accuse him of cheating. If you have the talk with him I told you to have, you will have your answers from either his body language and treatment of you or he will break down and confess.
edit to add: if he's cheating and doesn't confess, he won't be able to maintain eye contact with you, he will continue to be unreasonable and continue to accuse you of cheating and accuse you of thinking that he is cheating. If he is not cheating he will hear you out and feel bad about the way he has been behaving and he should apologize.
What you do after that is up to you.
2007-12-14 02:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being more than reasonable something that your boyfriend should try. Not trying to make excuses for him but maybe he might feel back about working real late and thinking that you are cheating on him (unless you gave him another reason to act that way)
Wait until he calms down (cause he is mad and most men are stubborn) and sit him down and have a real talk with him. Tell him that you didn't like he accusing you and acting the way that he did. Also explain to him that you will never do anything to hurt him
Don't worry yourself sick everything will work out in the end ur boyfriend is just a little mad
2007-12-14 02:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by CuriousStacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so he's allowed to come home late from work without a problem, but when you do it he gets all pissy? Talk about a double standard. You need to talk to him about it. You or your cousin shouldn't feel the need to apologize to him.
2007-12-14 02:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Elle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not fair and its not fair on your cousin either to have to txt him and apologise. I think your BF must be insecure and untrusting, and I think you need to sit down and talk to him about it - maybe explain that he cant be like that with you for being on the phone and tell him he needs to trust you, without trust there is no point in staying together
2007-12-14 02:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If mr kittens spoke to me like that he'd be living in a tent outside
2007-12-14 02:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Kittens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sex him up. He will forget the whole thing happened.
2007-12-14 02:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by IH8TomBrady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋