i was i a relationship for five years..... lots of ups ddown i finally decided to let it go.. i started workig new place.. was havin fun bein alone.. im gettin attracted to my boss // bachelor but recently he got engaged ... i seriously didot know but when i heard he got engaged i felt really bad... i m not that sorts who falls for each and every guy.. its just that i vibe well with him.. he also speaks tome for hors at work.. my friends say he treats me just like nay of his juniors..
i thought it was enough.. i just took break for ten days
...help if u can
is it normal or im just hungry for someone
2007-12-14 01:55:35 · 5 answers · asked by ladybird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that having an attraction for others is normal... Acting on it depending your relationship status as well as theirs is an act of morals. You know what is right and wrong. First ask him how his finance is? This will confirm any engagement, especially since you don't know when you heard it, it may be a faux pas. He may be single.
However I do caution against office romances. He is the boss, if you attempt one, be prepared to lose your job if it is outed or does not work out.
I heard, was it yesterday or the day before on the Today Show, a psychologist talking about the brain doing what the brain knows. Followed with an explanation of a person who may have been in a long term relationship (like you) ending it then within weeks entering another relationship. This is done because the brain is use to living and being in a relationship and it can not handle not being in a relationship.
That is probably why we hear so many people saying they are working on a negative trait they feel they have. It isn't easy changing who we are and what we are comfortable with.
It sounds like you have attempted to step back.
This is a hard time of year, especially for someone who has just come out of a long term relationship.
Try to have fun with friends and family.
2007-12-14 02:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the whole story sounds very "normal." We spend a great amount of time at work, so we get to know those people well and if we are talking to one of them a lot, and we recently had a break up in a five year relationship, like you did. Of course you are a little hungry for attention, and it is only "normal" that it would make you a little sad that he got engaged. I think that you should go on enjoying his friendship, but don't make it anymore then that. Relationships at work can be messy. You will meet your new prince charming and he will be single, just give it some time. I read in Cosmo once that we need one month of being completely alone for every year that we were in a serious relationship to completely heal and be ready for the next one.
2007-12-14 02:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ladybird sounds like you may be a bit lonely after losing your relationship of five years. Pretty normal to be attracted to your superior but not realistic majority of the time. Give yourself some time to grieve the lose of your relationship then you will find Mr. Right and don't be in such a hurry to get into a rebound relationship.
2007-12-14 02:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for women to be attracted to men with money and power... so the boss is a good match.
Then the biology takes over. Your brain produces oxytocin which is a hormone which bonds people together.
I think what you experienced was normal, especially considering how he would talk with you for hours. This causes your brain to go into the oxytocin mode and there you have it. You just have to realize that this is a normal reaction and move on.
2007-12-14 02:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm hungry too....what do you look like? LOL
2007-12-14 01:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋