I became a gf of Mr.A for 7 years up to now. His family used to ask him to get married to a rich girl but he refused because he loved me. He is a quiet person, he never liked romatic feeling but he is faithful. Since i've known him, i can't do many things that i want like singing, dancing, wearing sexy dress because he dislikes...so i have to follow him. He often easy to get angry if i did s.th wrong but he is easy to compose. Last year, i came to study in another country while he was continueing his work at our country. He came to visit me twice a month. However, while i was in another country alone i knew Mr. B. W first talked as friends but i found out we had many things the sames then we decided to be bf and gf (i told him that i already broked up with Mr. A but in fact not yet). what should i do? Mr A has built loving with me 7 years and people know about us and he is still faithful to me even he is so sensitive (angry) , while Mr.B even i just know him but we have the same hobbie
2007-12-14 01:50:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How come you live with a man for 7 years and did not end with marriage? However, u've better way up pros and con between two of them. We are women, we should have alternative. Don't stick with only one man or ur life will sucks. Life is short, choose what your heart wants.
2007-12-14 02:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No judging required. You are happier with MrB. because he's everything Mr A isn't. Think of it like this...you and Mr A don't seem to have an awful lot in common. Mr.B enjoys the same things you do and doesn't have that temper that Mr. A does. The fact that you used the words "not yet" when talking about breaking up with MrA indicate that you're not happy and want to leave. It's a choice you have to make between happiness or none. It seems like you'll have more of a fun and fullfilling relationship with Mr. B.
2007-12-14 02:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mikey D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself what you really want. Are you truly happy with Mr. A? Or do you feel like he's holding you back? I completely understand that after that long you would hate to 'throw away' what you two have worked so hard to build up, but if you can't be yourself, then it's not right for you. I was in a relationship for 4 1/2 years, we had talked kids and marriage, then we ended it. It was hard, and took a little getting used to, but in the end, it was right for us. I'm now very happily engaged to an amazing man that loves me for me, just the way I am, and he makes me feel incredible!!
Think long and hard about it, maybe Mr. A (and possibly Mr. B) aren't the right guy for you...take some "you time" and really sort out what you want, don't want, will put up with, and will not put up with.
Best of luck to you.
2007-12-14 01:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I am not in this situiation it is easier for me to say go with Mr B. I think you are feeling bad because Mr A chose you over a rich girl and has been faithful to you for 7 years ,but you don't sound like you are happy. You can't enjoy yourself with A so why spend the reat of your life unhappy? We only have a short time on this earth, so why not be happy and live life to the fullest while we are here!!
2007-12-14 02:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Maile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, you are not truly in love with Mr. A. It appears that even though you have had a long term relationship with him, he is too controlling. I suggest that you let him know that you are not sure and need some time away from him. As for Mr. B. You should be honest with him and tell him that you were afraid to end it with Mr. A, but now you have ended it. Stay single for a while without committing to either one.
2007-12-14 02:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by miamiwings 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mr. A loves to control. You have allowed him to control you in every way for seven years. You have given up unwillingly everything that makes you happy to make him feel OK. If you allow this relationship to continue, you will be one of the most unhappy women out there. Make a list of the things you need in a relationship. Write them down on paper. See hoe many of your needs are being met by Mr.A. Lastly, you are not responsible for his feelings. When you tell him he will be angry because he has lost control. You will feel a sense of relief like you haven't felt for a long time.
2007-12-14 02:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is pretty stressful to live with Mr. A and you can't be the yourself around him because you have to conform to his idea of how a woman is "supposed" to be.
You sound like you enjoy your time with Mr. B and it sounds like Mr. B accepts you for who you are.
Regardless of whether you stay with Mr. B or not, you should break up with Mr A (also there is no reason to inform Mr A about Mr B). it doesn't matter how long you've been together, it just sounds like you have to make too many changes to yourself to be acceptable to him and that is never a good thing. Eventually you would start to resent him and the pair of you would end up breaking up anyway.
2007-12-14 02:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. A is not worth it. You just stated the reasons why. You can't wear dresses, sing, dance. You met someone you can actually enjoy and have fun with. Why pass that up for some angry guy. Time does not equal a loving fun relationship.
2007-12-14 01:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by myraxellenxamos 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
who cares about Mr.a, he is history!All is fair in love and war. You should be happy for yourself and the luck in meeting someone so wonderful. just let the other guy(Mr.a) know that you have found someone else and it is over. hope to be friends, blah,blah, and whenever he asks you why? Take the time to tell him how sensitive and controlling he is. You owe him that much. Then, maybe he won't be so awful to his next relationship. Be happy and congrats on the new guy!! you are a luck lady!
2007-12-14 01:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the grass always looks greener on the other side. Make sure you're willing to give up 7 years for someone that you just started really getting to know. If you're sure you want to give it up, then do it, don't string him along. Let him know that you just don't feel comfortable around him anymore, and you want to break it off. The STUPIDIST thing you could do is tell him about Mr. B. Good Luck.
2007-12-14 01:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Rhyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋