Due to an ending friendship with one of the employees in my office, it has turned most of them against me. This mostly has to due with the fact that younger ladies, girls, seem to love to pretend they're still in high school and form cliques and start rumors and such. I really only have three main friends within our Firm and only one of them is attending. How bad does it look if I do not attend. And how many of you suggest that I should attend? The party is tonight after work so please let me know what you think.
As far as things I've read or seen from others, it seems as though I will go through this the rest of my life with most, if not all women, it's not just younger females in their twenties. That's really sad.
2007-12-14 01:43:39 · 22 answers · asked by Fawnie, Baby Deer, Little Deer 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To add to the frustration, the party is being held at one of th partner's houses that one of the "lovely ladies" is the direct secretary to.
And just to mention, this office is full of about four different "cliques" there is just one, which is the majority, that I do not appreciate. The others I associate with, but we are just co-workers, not friends, like the three women I already mentioned.
2007-12-14 02:18:08 · update #1
From my experience if there is any drama IN the office that you are even partly involved with it's best to stay away from office parties!!
Alcohol and co-workers can be a very bad combination if it's that kind of party
2007-12-14 01:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Brad R 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Hi Lily, I have been to a few, and as you, left before things happened. That was years ago. This year (past Friday) I attended one put on by the County for it's employees. I helped cook steaks and other food. It was well attended, as the people were working in the Courthouse. It was nice and many employees thanked us. Also everyone got a gift. So this is one that I had fun at. I didn't like the others, especially when fist fights would break out. The other one I go to is Community Action. I sit on the governing board. This is a formal event. It is nice, but not "fun".
2016-04-09 02:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes take the high road and make an appearance. You dont have to stay all that long...The higher ups do notice stuff like this, just as they probably notice the petty BS to some extent. Eat something before you go, and limit the alcohol. Don't give them ANYTHING for ammo. You will glad you went cuz you will have not let them win this one. Go somewhere else after while you are dressed up and have fun!
2007-12-14 02:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Stacies Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be the better person...If these girls aren't OVERLY mean to you, if they just don't talk to you then who cares!! Go to the party, and make sure you look really good (dress in a cute outfit, hair & makeup) and just have fun, there HAS GOT TO BE more than JUST ONE person you work with that talks to you, and if not then maybe you could be the problem. If they are truly being immature and catty, then why wouldn't you go, they are the fools not you, so go and have fun and ignore their bad behavior, don't make them think they have some kind of power over you, if you don't go b/c of them, they will KNOW that's why, be a stronger person than that!!
2007-12-14 01:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well as far as your generalization about all women goes...I work in an office with 4 other women ages 27-35 and we all get along GREAT. Its amazing, with 5 women in the office and there's no back-stabbing.
As for your question, the part isn't mandatory and many people choose not to attend their company christmas parties for various reasons. Simply do not attend, and you don't owe anyone an excuse.
2007-12-14 01:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Katie G 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the women at your workplace.
Where I work - the females are okay and we are all professional and have respect for eachother.
Yes - there is complaining but rarely do I hear bad bitching about anyone.
But you shouldnt feel obliged to attend.
I always keep out of such events. I would go if it was in work hours. Outside of work hours = No no.
2007-12-14 01:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn 2012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go. You and the one friend of yours attending can be there to support one another.
If you don't go, they'll have even more to talk about. Sad, but true.
Go and have a blast!
Added: For the women that are just co-workers, not friends -- go to this party and make friends with them.
2007-12-14 01:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I say you go. You can't really run away from the situation, you just have to deal with it. Act normal, as if nothing's happened. If what they are spreading about you are just rumors, then you don't have a reason to feel shamed or embarrassed. In the case your at, you are letting them affect you. They are the ones who needs fixin, not you. Just be yourself and they might realize how childish they are acting.
2007-12-14 01:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Concerned.. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a sit down dinner, go about 15 minutes prior to time to be served.
If it's a cocktail type party, go about 30 minutes to one hour after start time, stay for about an hour and then quietly exit. Be sure to speak to your managers and thank them for their hospitality. Other than that just make small talk.
Good luck! Enjoy!
2007-12-14 01:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by pinky 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My company Xmas party is tonight too! I'm going only to get drrrunk for free! If I was in your situation, I'd totally ditch that party and go out and do something better. Who cares what they think about your absenteeism. Sounds like you work with some shallow girls. Its all about how you'd like to spend your evening.
2007-12-14 01:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by kyle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋