2007-12-14 01:34:45 · 19 answers · asked by mason41307 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It depends what kind of working mother or stay at home mother you are. There are outside of the home jobs that are light with stress and the are stay at home moms who do a ton of volunteering and play date organizing, etc. The spectrum flows both ways. This one thing I wish everyone remembered when SAHMs judge working mothers and when working mothers judge SAHMs. Everyone has their own levels of stress so this cannot be judged.
2007-12-14 01:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Karla 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to work outside the home after my daughter was born and then quit and got an "At-Home Job" So I'm a stay at home mom but I also work between naps and bedtime...My opinion having experience in both situations, I would say stay at home parent is more stress..But a kind of enjoyable stress..lol..does that make since..I love being able to see my daughter growing up and not miss out on things and even better I love having the opportunity to work from home to see this happen :) It's just now I have the stress of the baby, the stress of the job the stress of having to keep my house together, raise my other son who's 14 AND take care of my disabled husband..So i guess you could say i'm a little STRESSED...lol
But its all good :)
2007-12-14 09:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jess05 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been in both positions. Stay at home has a different level of stress than working, but what I wish the sahm that have never worked with children would understand is that parenting is 24/7 no matter what. You have to deal with a job and then come home and deal with everything at home. There is no break for us either. You do not have the luxury of getting the laundry done. No you have to do it when you get home. You have to spend time with your little one. You have to cook , You have to clean, you have to help with homework. If the baby gets sick at 3:00 a.m. you have to get up with them and then get to work on time. There is no stealing a nap everynow and then. They are totally different worlds that until you have done both you can't say one it easier than the other.
2007-12-14 09:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A working parent (mom). I have noticed I have less time for many things I had time to do before... I used to wash during the day but since I dont get home till 6 pm I try to get it done on a saturday which normally requires a lot of rest. I am also on call so its a little tough to juggle this as well. I am a recruiter and sometimes they get sick and I have to work and if they got sick and I was at home it would be easy I wouldnt request my lunch later so I can rush tot them and get a sitter....So more stressed since I am a working mother.. I also have help from spouse but sometimes it makes a little more stress
2007-12-14 09:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that both are very stressful. If you are a working parent you are always worried about something a work : deadlines, boss and expectations. If you are a stay at home parent you also have expectations like doctor appointments, feedings and keeping your house tidy. I think whether your partner tells you or not, they expect the mother and wife to be able to do it all and have time to spare. It can get really crazy.
2007-12-14 09:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by lilsnob8681 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel that a "stay at home" parent has more stress because it is a 24/7 job, where if you work a regular shift, you leave your place of employment & don't have to deal with things until the next day.
Raising children does not allow any breaks & you don't get to spend any real quality time with other adults.
Phyllis G.
2007-12-14 09:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Phyllis G 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anyone can really say that either "type" of mom is more stressed. It is based on the individual person and their lifestyle.
If you have a working mom, who can depend on her husband or family to get her kids to school or daycare, has a laid back job, who doesn't have to rush home after work to pick her kids up because her husband does it, whose family eats alot of take out, well then I wouldn't say that they would have a very stressed life.
If you have a SAHM whose only child is in kindergarten, then basically all she really has to do in the morning is to get her kid up, dressed, fed breakfast, fix his lunch, take him to school, then she has the nest 6-7 hours to do what she needs to do, be it clean, do laundry, run errands, or whatever. Basically the same things that all mothers have to find time to do, though that mother has 6-7 child free hours to do it in. I wouldn't take that as a very stressed life.
If a working mom has to fit laundry, meals, shopping, cleaning, homework, baths, and playing with her kids into the hours before or after work, then that can be very stressfull. Though if a SAHM has no support system from her husband or family, and has multiple children to care for 24/7 then she would be pretty stressed too.
2007-12-14 11:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Cowgirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think both are equally stressful in two totally different ways. I'm gonna be a working mom because I can't afford to stay at home with my baby, I wish I could though.
2007-12-14 09:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A working parent because they have stress internally and externally. A stay at home parent only has internal issues.
2007-12-14 10:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends on the situation, in my case the dad's job is way more stressful than mine, and I'm the stay at home parent. I deal with more tantrums, but the working parent has the harder job.
2007-12-14 09:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by k Catalyst 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋