i had a baby boy when i was eighteen and as a result ,me and my ex where always fighting.we broke up and i was told to keep away from her but i still paided her csa money.i done my best too give her a new home and stuff,but i was young and brought up with drink ,of which i thought was the norm and now i regret all the drinking i done then,i was too inature.anyway the child is 8 now and i sent another card to her address and she phoned me and says dont bother anymore ,i also said too her have you told our son that im his real dad?she went no im not telling him till he is mature enough and why should i.things were getting brought up about the past and i said we were too young and hated each other and i was just concerned about seeing my son.she told me too keep away at eighteen and she sent me solicerters letters which scared me as i was still young and shocked at the age i was so i kept away she never phoned or replied to cards nothing.so now i want to see my son as he is biologiacally.
2007-12-14 01:30:50 · 4 answers · asked by mark g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is your name on the birth certificate? The law has recently changed, meaning that if your name is on his birth certificate then you have as much right as her to contact with your son, unless of course there really are extenuating circumstances.
The longer you let her disallow contact between yourself and your son the harder it will be for you to bond with each other. Either go and see your local Citizens Advice or visit a solicitor and try to gain access legally. Good luck. Every baby has a right to a Daddy.
2007-12-14 01:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact a solicitor. She has no right to alienate your child from you. Unlike you she is still bitter about the past but you have clearly grown past all that and have good intentions. Some women will weave a lot of stories to their current partner to make out you are some kind of violent psycho so she is given lots of sympathy and understanding on this subject. This makes her more keen to keep you away as the truth might come out making her partner angry. If you were violent and fuelled by drink etc she could still agree to you having supervised contact, its still better than nothing and worth considering, as it can only be increased from there. Supervised contact would be at a service that runs at the weekend. As i say, its worth contacting a solicitor about contact so you dont lose the chance to have a bond permanently with your child. Dont give up, best of luck.
2007-12-14 01:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by mybeach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were really young and so was she,so she should really try and understand. you two need to work something out unless your child is gonna suffer the consequences.
2007-12-14 01:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by the bright side of life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to see your child go and talk to CAB they will help
2007-12-14 01:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋