2007-12-14 00:54:39 · 21 answers · asked by iamnoone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Who gave Primoa the thumbs down? For shame. His is an honest answer, and that's exactly what I'm looking for.
2007-12-14 01:01:47 · update #1
I never understood it either, Primoa.
2007-12-14 01:10:11 · update #2
A little bit of both I would say......
A blessing because it gives you the opportunity to return what they did for you as a child....
And a burden because.....well......it's hard work caring for an elderly person.
Edit:
Thanks Red Queen.......I never understood the theory of thumbs-downing an opinion question
2007-12-14 00:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by primoa1970 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
It's both a blessing and a burden.
It is a blessing to be able to care for your parents who cared and worried over you for so many years. And still do I'm sure.
It is a physical and financial and time burden.
In the balance I don't know which is greater but it will defnitely not be forever.
Something else to throw in the pot is how aware or lucid they are, do they know or care who you are anymore?
And also the quality of care you can give. Can you provide everything they need at home? Can you afford a facility that will provide everything they need?
This may be the first question to ask but here it is at the end, What are their wishes?
2007-12-14 01:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tadhg M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both of my parents are now deceased. They died quite young at 66 and 69. Of course I would rather they were alive and I could care for them. That would be the greatest privilege to only have one more day with them...even if it meant simply caring for their needs.
After a person is dead--it's too late to be able to give them anything--your time, your patience, your care, your love, your sympathy, your conversation....even when it seems like a burden it is still a blessing....it stretches us to be able to give even while knowing we may never get back anything other than the clear conscience of knowing we did the right thing.
May God Bless all those who are struggling with this calling and ministry to their parents and/or loved ones.
2007-12-14 01:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by steinbeck11 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is both blessing and burden. I did it for 17 years. I learned a great deal and I would not trade the experience for anything.
We are the sum of our experiences. Some of them are difficult to say the least but these are also the most valuable.
Love and blessings Dear sister.
Don
2007-12-14 01:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 06:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the mental/physical condition of the parent. I took care of my dad for about 3 years. It started out do-able, but progressively got worse. It became a serious burden. I would not wish it on anyone- it can get tough.
2007-12-14 01:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Poor Richard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my grandmother was ailing, I usually felt it was a burden. Now I miss her and hopefully will get the opportunity to not make the same mistake with my parents.
2007-12-14 01:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would also have to say both, it's an honour and privilege to return the favour of them caring for us as children, it would be a lie to say there is no burden, physical, mental, emotional and financial, but those things are things that you put aside for family because you love them
2007-12-14 01:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult both emotionally and financially to care for an ailing parent. HOWEVER, it is better to care for them yourself than to have some stranger take care of them. Who knows what or how they will treat them. It is sad that our government does not help those who are caring for an ailing parent in their homes.
2007-12-14 00:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Imagine No Religion 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i took care of my mother the last 3 years of her life and i considered it a blessing,it was hard and and could be a bit of a burden,the responsibility requires alot of patience but when you truly love someone it is worth every minute...Merry Christmas and God Bless
2007-12-14 01:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋