Ok heres the thing.
i only get to see my boyfriend on the weekend & friday after school...
& i just found out this girl that goes to his schol fancies him.
he text me saying he thinks shes okay.
I Dont no what to think really.
because he says he loves me & stuff, but he gets to see this girl every day.
im seeing him tonight.
& i dont no how to ask him straight if he wants our relationship to end.
but im going to ask him that.
What do you think should happen?
we have been out 3 months & im so in love...
and so confussed.
please help me
:]
xxxx
2007-12-13 21:15:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am sure he'll definitely understand YOU!!!....
You first tell him how much you like him and all that stuff and then you ask him!!!!!
ALL THE BEST!!!
2007-12-13 21:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Smith 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There will be people who he likes, and even people who you like over time. Think of it another way, if you got invited out by a guy for a drink, would you go ? how would that make him feel ? Eventually the problem swings both ways. You either deal with it together as a couple and build up trust towards eachother, or these things will eventually split you too apart.
Talking to other people is not really an issue unless it become an obsession. In which case there could be a start of a real problem. If there is no trust, work on it. It problems can't be resolved then there is no trust and the relationship will fail.
When I am out and about with my girl, she moans as I look at other girls while in town. It upsets her. Though she looks at other guys aswell, which upsets me. At the end of the day, we both go into town together and come home together. So whos to say it is wrong ?
You have to decide what you call acceptable, but not in the extreme. He will be attracted to toher girls, and you will be attracted to other guys.. talk about how you feel and do not start to point the finger at something which is not really there.
If he starts to ignore you, spend less time with you, and you suspect he is with other girls. Mentions it, see how it goes that you never see eachother. If it carrys on for a while then it is time to move on and it would seem he can't be trusted, or he just does not care about you enough.
Work though problems is the key, if you can work though them then everything is fine. If the same problems happen over and over again, its time to move on.
2007-12-13 22:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by exxos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he has to see her every day...They go to the same school.
He can't stop the girl from fancying him but he doesn't have to respond to her.
He's with you and not her. Your probably feeling insecure as your relationship is still quite new.
What makes you think that he want's your relationship to end? Has he said anything to you or behaved in a certain way?
Don't let this girl win by letting her know that she is the cause for the friction in your relationship.
Enjoy your relationship, have fun , go to the movies, bowling or the cinema. Show him what a brilliant girlfriend and how fun and interesting you are and he will not even bother looking in her direction. But if you constantly pester him for no good reason you will possibly push him away, making him available to her.
Hope all goes well. x
2007-12-13 21:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by GirlUK07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see him ask him how he sees things between you and himself, also does he fancy the other girl. This should give you a clue as to your future, even in the short term. At your age things change quite a lot, so don't be to hard on him-or you might frighten him off.
2007-12-13 21:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a hard 1 can u be with out him?at the end of the day u need to know where u stand. if it was me i would tell him look i really love u at the end of the day. but i would want to know if ur interested in anybody else.i would also explain that u wud rather know now and be hurt than finding out u have been 2 timed which would really hurt.good luck hunx
2007-12-13 21:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by donna t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww sweetie! Thats not a nice situation to be in!
I was in the same when i was 15. The guy said he wanted to be with me but he ended up sleping with this other girl & breaking my heart!
If he chooses you be very wary! You might have found a good one though but keep your guard up a little bit!
Good luck!
2007-12-13 21:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he likes someone else doesn't mean he wants to go out with her. He's probably a little flattered that she fancies him, but so what.
Whatever you do, don't let this get to you. It really isn't important.
2007-12-13 22:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself and him some space and see if it come back to one. you can see what really up with out your heart on the line.but don't go wondering off as soon as its back to Friends with you two, if he see or feel you moved on other than work,school,family he can use that as a cop out . this can be a chance to see if he really want you in his life.just friends all over again but don't get weird on him stay strong and pray for you to see things you need to
2007-12-13 21:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by e2saxon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to just bite the bullet and ask him if he wants to be with you or not. You dont want to be wasting your time with someone who doesn't want to be with you or is playing behind your back. Yes it will hurt if he breaks up with you but maybe he's not the right person for you! Good luck sweetie
2007-12-13 21:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you breaking up with him? Do you thrive on drama or something or are you just really insecure? It doesn't sound to me like he has even done anything wrong. I feel sorry for your boyfriend.
2007-12-13 21:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't over-react i bet your boyfriend still loves you. Just because he gets to see that girl every day doesn't mean he likes her. He's only saying she's okay... He's not saying like OMG YOU KNOW I SAW THIS GIRL AND SHE LOOKS HOTT!!! you don't have to freak out!!
2007-12-13 21:22:05 · answer #11 · answered by Charlene c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋