Okay... I've been married almost 5 years (together 7). When we first got engaged, we were 20 and still very very young (obviously), and college students. We could not afford a big fancy ring, but I never really wanted one either. The ring I have now is 1/3 carat and was $450 for the set. It is very basic round solitaire. Anyway, he told me it was only temporary and he would eventually get me a larger one. Am I horrible to want an upgrade? Like to a 0.75 carat?
I don't want to change the whole ring, just the actual diamond.
2007-12-13 19:54:08 · 25 answers · asked by Just Tryin' to Help 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If that was the plan do it.
2007-12-13 19:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by K 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, my first set the engagement ring had a chip of a diamond and the wedding band had an even smaller chip the Christmas before our 10 anniversary he surprised me with a much nicer set that is probably close to 1 1/2 -2 carat. I'd say talk to him about it and maybe make it a anniversary gift for your 10th anniversary. Don't push the issue especially if you guys are still not financially sound. In all honesty talk to your husband, be honest with him...you never know you may be surprised with it at Christmas.
2007-12-14 01:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what about instead of replacing the stone, you add extra diamonds? my mom's engagement ring was a solitare and later on they added side diamonds. looks very lovely and still has the original diamond. maybe you can use your current diamond as one of the side stones for a larger diamond.
either way, you'd probably have to get a new setting. even if you just wanted a bigger stone, a 3/4 carat stone might not fit in a setting for 1/3 carat.
2007-12-14 02:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by not margaret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe it is anything wrong with that. My fiancee brought me a 1 carat cubic zirconia engagement ring for Christmas 2006 and will be giving me my 1 1/2 carat diamond engagement ring this Christmas 2007 because he was unable to afford it at that time.
2007-12-14 01:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear a lot about a husband getting an "upgrade" for their wife for an anniversary. Most of us get married when we're just starting out in our careers and don't have a ton of money. My husband purchased my wedding ring with a setting that would accommodate the main diamond being upgraded in the future. I don't think there's anything wrong with it and you should do it.
2007-12-14 03:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by stahija 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all! In fact, a lot of people get a cheap ring and upgrade later. I just got engaged. My boyfriend bought me a cubic zirconia and we will upgrade to a diamond later because we just cant afford it right now! Actually, a lot of people upgrade to a better rock for thier 10 year wedding anniversary. Just mention casually to him. Say something like "you remember when you said you'll upgrade my ring? I thought we could do that for our wedding anniversary, what do you think?" he's probably just forgotten, you know guys!
2007-12-14 00:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by katie-bug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so not horrible, it was the original plan. I am very superstitious and sentimental, I would not give up the original diamond, sure get it upgraded ... but put it into something else, maybe a couples ring that has your and his birthstone and the original diamond in the middle showing the connection ... plus when you reach your 50th anniversary you will have great pieces of jewelry to look at and say wow look how you have grown (lol) ... plus great sentimental things to pass on to new generations :)
Congrats on the 5 years ... that's huge for this day and age ... 5 is the new 10 ... totally celebrate ... oh and be careful how you approach your hubby ... I am sure you know how to hint and read him by now haha ...
2007-12-13 20:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me Here in Hawaii 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it... in fact, why don't you take him to the jeweler to look for your "christmas gift!"
Here is an idea though, why don't you get a 3 stone ring, and have your original engagement diamond be one of the side-stones??? Or you could have it made into a necklace pendant, or perhaps you could buy a little matching diamond to turn it into earrings.
2007-12-14 01:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by vanessa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to change the ring that you were married with? I would never want to do that. I feel that is pretty shallow. You are making it about you and what you want and not what the ring symbolizes. It could be a piece of grass tied around your finger. It shouldn't be about how big the diamond is or how much it cost, it should be what it means to you and your husband.
2007-12-14 03:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jay's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can afford it, then go for it. But you might as well go for a full carat so you won't really need to upgrade it again...just in case!
2007-12-14 01:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by Dangerous Person 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with an upgrade. I had my engagement ring from my mom and my hubby didn't have money. He has promised an upgrade and I am going to hold him to it in the next few years.
2007-12-14 00:43:11 · answer #11 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋