This couple from my gym(good acquiantances,the guy is 30,the girl is 23).He said that they want to invite me out with them.I'm one of the only ones that know they are a couple there,but what is the motive here?I'm just fairly good acquiantances with them.I dunno if he's pissed at me for something or what.Or is he just being nice?I know i'm being paranoid,but why would people who barely know you(save for the gym)want to all of a sudden invite you out. I just told him i've been busy lately and we'll grab numbers sometime and maybe down the road.Again am i being paranoid?I've formed many relationships in the past where i thought things were solid but i ended up having differences with the person.What is the motive here?
2007-12-13 19:30:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2007-12-14 21:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I wouldn't start out assuming they're pissed at you. People don't extend invitations to people they're pissed at.
I don't think there's any real reason to be worried about it. If you don't want to go, that's fine, but it is probably that they just thought you seemed nice and are trying to extend an offer of friendship.
You know, the "where do you see this going?" conversation can strain even good romantic relationships. It's even more annoying, for a lack of a better word, when it's being obsessed over just because they talk to you or asked if you wanted to get together sometime. Extending or accepting an invitation like that is not a committment. If you all have fun, you have new friends. If not, you just don't go out with them again, and resume your weight-room relationship at the gym.
As for just knowing them at the gym, you have to meet the people who are going to be friends SOMEWHERE.
And just like dating, if you go hang out, and you realize you "have differences with the person" (which, by the way, will be the case every time... having differences is not an automatic friend-be-gone spell), you just kind of step back.
Take it easy and stop trying to figure out the guy's "motive." You're overthinking it, and if this is a habit you have, you should know that that way of thinking can sabotage a new friendship.
2007-12-13 19:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably just extroverts who like you. If you like them then accept. Just - as usual - go somewhere where there are plenty of people around and have your own transport home. Just in case they are vampires. I think the fact that you say "I've formed many relationships in the past ..." that have ended badly shows that you are probably a little bit too cautious about new relationships (you haven't even been out with them and yet you are already anticipating an unhappy ending!). It's holiday season, have fun!
2007-12-13 20:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will you ever find out if you don't go for it?
I'd take up the invitation like a shot because I couldn't live with the curiosity if I didn't.
And what have you got to lose?
Except for your life, of course, if they turn out to be a couple of axe murderers and have a handy patio...
2007-12-13 21:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you agree to meet them in a bar for a few drinks then you can shoot through if it seems they have an alternative motive.
Maybe they are just being friendly- some people are strange like that.
2007-12-13 19:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Monstera Deliciosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're worried you should get to know them better first. I don't think it's anything to worry about so much, but I can understand.
Notice how the two are acting when they ask you next, and what words they use. You can usually tell if they are pissed or not.
2007-12-13 19:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by oh oh no! :( 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go hang out and see what they're like. I know that when my husband and I meet someone we both agree is interesting, we ask them to hang out. Maybe they're just looking for new friends.
2007-12-13 19:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mama_Chaos 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they mention it again say that you and your date would love to. Problem solved (assuming you find a date). I wouldn't go as a "third wheel" if I were you.
2007-12-13 21:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they want to introduce you to someone as a blind date?
Trust your intuition (sixth sense) (trouble radar)(angel on your shoulder) (weird meter)
LOL
If they make you uncomfortable, you are picking up their motives and intentions.
2007-12-13 19:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had a choice of bunks mate...would you choose the top or the bottom?
(what it sounds like)
2007-12-13 21:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋