Hello I am a Guy 23y5m...
My parents planing to get married as i am the only Bachalor left in my friends group of my community... normally in my community the guys are married with in 23 or max 24...
I am MBA started with my Job last 6 months...
I earn good but still have hunger to to earn better and do Phd...
I beleive my concentration will be diluted if i get into Marriage and family life...
What should i Do... ????
2007-12-13 17:37:18 · 21 answers · asked by vikas j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First of all looks lik u r a Marwadi guy?? Its jus a guess though..
Its nothin dat u cant concentrate after marriage n all... U look for such a partner hu ll help instead... May b aft u get married ur life becomes more beautiful, U ll definetly study wel aft marriage also... Money , Earning money is not difficult u c...
2007-12-13 18:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a well educated adult person. You should take a decision urself or by discussing with your near and dear ones.
Am married. One can manage both the family and career without much problems and loss of concentration. I have done nicely in both the aspects.
But looking at your age, you have got still some more years before you get married. Atleast a couple of years, surely. Why worry about marriage now? Concentrate more on your studies and career for next 2 to 3 years. Achieve your goals. Then get married. It's best of the both worlds.
Best luck.
2007-12-13 17:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Nitin G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is breathe!
Now, coming from a "you are the only person in our group that isn't married" background, I can relate & share this with you. SO WHAT!! You are fulfilling your dream to become a better person in a job or career that will make you stronger for your future mate. With that said, who made it a law in your group that you need to be married by the age of 24? Seriously marriages are not to be taken lightly or to put pressure on a person just to make someone else (ie. your parents or friends) better because it is a competition.
So if you must, and I also did this with my parents, I told them when I am to get married & with whom it would be my choice. I respect your desire to be grandparents or see me happy, yet who says I am happy now. Just give me a year or 2 to get my career/job more secure & I will see this topic later. And say it in a loving manner; oh how folks get antsy when you don't. Especially parents.
And if your friends don't include you with stuff because you aren't dating or in a relationship, so what. When they are bogged down with a child or need a night out & they can't, you can smile & say you don't have that worry.... just yet!
In all, just be you. Everything & that special person will come into your life when you least expect it & when you are ready to take on that role.
Follow your dreams!
2007-12-13 17:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by TPEvents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vikas Babu,
1. You can wait for atleast 4 to 5 years. You are only 23.
2. You say you have hunger to earn more. Would you be interested in an online business that can be done during spare time? If your hunger is insatiable you will earn more, more and more. Please come back to me.
3. PhD - Never have this hunger. MBA itself is more.
2007-12-16 17:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cooooool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart and do what is best for you. I suggest you get all your education first and then if you want to find yourself a nice woman and settle down. It would be so much easier on you and your new spouse.
I am 55 years old and I do know what I am talking about. Another thing, I would be so proud of any son that fulfilled his career goals before marriage.
Good Luck !
2007-12-13 18:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your parents concerns but this is your life! You have to set your own goals and go forth in attaining them! Talk with your parents and explain why and what your plans are for the near future as of yet! Explain to them that this is something you need to do before you take on the responsibility of inviting another person to share their life with you! Talk to them and hopefully they will listen and understand your personal desires! Good Luck!
2007-12-13 19:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by itzybit_303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let other peoples idea of when you should marry matter. It is your life. There is always going to be someone sticking their 2 cents in. Listen,nod politely and then go about your own business. Do what feels right for you.
2007-12-13 17:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hai fend are u sure you want to get married if yes then 1st you cheak your stability power in social life style with yur confidence so I think first you come with big nation and you string life is not too short to enjoy the married life time but if you are not ready then you can huge so many prolems later
2007-12-15 00:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by aryan s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You an adult male. You do what adult males do.
You set your goals and go.
Everyone's opinion is just noise.
I'm sure your parents are very proud of you - they know you will be a great husband and father when you are ready. You may just have to gently remind them of the "when you are ready" part. It is worth waiting to do right.
2007-12-13 17:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Stan W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prioritize your needs, Go by what your mind tells, set your goals, and achive them:) Later you can build a good personal life too:)
All the best for your studies:)
2007-12-13 18:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by memyself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋