i hve a 5 yr old BOY & a 2 yr old GIRL. Both are quarelling a lot abt almost everything. hw do i stop them?

Question

Both children are fighting over almost everything including our attention. How will i tame them???

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Well, if they are needing attention, then give it to them. Right now they might be engaging in negative behaviors because they have noticed that they get what they want (your attention) when they do it. To turn this cycle around, give them positive attention when they do things that you like, and don't give them attention when they are doing something you don't like. When both children realize that you love them and will give them attention, the need to compete with each other for your attention will probably stop.

Answer 3

Old School Answer:

1) Tell them to knock it off and behave like little gentlemen and ladies.

2) If the above does not work, tell them they either act like little gentlemen and ladies or you will warm their backsides with the flat of your hand.

3) The disadvantage of this approach is that if they do not straighten up, you have only one option. In order to maintain credibility, you must follow through and warm their backsides precisely as you said you would. (Not fun, believe me I know.)

I know this is not a PC answer, but that is how I raised my kids. Thankfully, I did not have to swat their behinds very often. However, if I told them to stay out of the street, leave the neighbor's dog alone, or whatever, they typically did as they were told.

Also, I was never embarrased to take them out in public because they behaved like little ladies and gentlemen. They made me proud then, and they make me proud now that they are all grown up.

Answer 4

You can't do anything except make sure they don't hurt each other. Then you have to start taking away some privileges, such as TV, games, etc.; then, little by little give something back. It may not seem like it, but they ARE normal and they WILL grow out of it. Just love 'em to pieces in the mean while.

Answer 5

Try taking a favorite toy away from both and tell them everytime they fight you will take another toy away. Reward them by giving a toy back after they have been at peace for a specified amount of time.

By using positive and negative reinforcement, they will learn quickly that fighting is not acceptable.

Answer 6

I would start right around 2. 2 is the best learning stage. If she trys to hop of try giving her rewards for using the potty. Lik ever time she uses it correctly she gets a dime and then at the end of the month u can take her shopping and she can pick out her own little special toy.Good Luck!

Answer 7

How do you stop them? Hahahahaha. Wouldn't that be grand....That will happen about the same time as winning the lottery, moving to a private, secluded island and buying a yacht! Just be glad to have them, love them a lot, and when bedtime comes, sit back and relish the silence!

Answer 8

when you discover the answer contact me and share.....i notice that my kids quabble more when they are tired, hungry, or in need of attention.....when there is no attention to be had, they play like angels.....like when i am putting the baby down to sleep and they are not allowed to bother me, i can hear them in their room playing house and zoo and school, and they never utter a harsh word or a disrespectful tone....the minute i am done, they act like they hate eachother.....i have not yet figured out how to solve this problem

Answer 9

one of you tend to one child while the other spends time with the second child...

try and find age appropriate activities that each of them is interested in to keep them separated but occupied.

sibling rivalry is bound to happen but try to give them separate but equal undivided attention.

Answer 10

It's sibling rivalry. It happens to be normal.