My husband & I recently sold our house & we have to move in with family for 3 months until our new house is ready. My husband works & I stay home with our son, he' 2. I get along good with my inlaws but the thought of staying with them is making me REALLY nervous & uncomfortable. I get a knot in my stomach just thinking about it. I guess I feel that I'll have to be this super perfect wife, mother & cook while we stay with them. I would LOVE to stay with my mother (she loves my husband & we're really close) but her house is smaller & my inlaws have a SUPER huge house with lot's of rooms. We'd still have room at my mother's but not as much & she has a dog (small one) but I know she worries about him & my son. Soooo...I don't know what to do! My inlaws offered for us to stay with them a long time ago & my mom did but she was kinda reluctant about it cause of the dog but she seemed unsure. Please help me decide...I just want everyone to be happy with our decision
2007-12-13 16:30:09 · 10 answers · asked by Another baby boy! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We can't afford to rent something, plus it would be really offensive to our families if we didn't pick one of them to stay with.
2007-12-13 16:37:52 · update #1
One of the major things that makes me uncomfortable is that I don't really like his inlaws cooking...it's really greasy & fattening & I tend to cook more healthly. I can eat it though because it's tasty but I honestly don't think I could eat it everyday for 3 months. I'm so STRESSED!!!!
2007-12-13 16:47:41 · update #2
I'd say your mom. It seems that's what you want to do and I'm sure your mom would enjoy it. I don't really see what problem the dog would cause ecspecially if it's small.
2007-12-13 16:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by Joie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to that knot in your stomach!
When your move in with either your parents or your in-laws, you will be giving them a certain amount of control. After 2 weeks you will pretty much stop being nice to one another.
Your relationship with them will not be the same after 3 months of gritting your teeth, biting your lip, and butting heads.
If you have the money... consider getting into some extended-stay corporate housing... "Google" it. These things have kitchenettes, too. Chances are there is a place nearby that allows you to both have privacy and still be able to drop the baby off at one or the other's house while you go out shopping.
2007-12-13 16:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always a bad idea to move in with family after you get married. It only causes problems. You should find a hotel or some place else. Three months is a long time. Is it worth it?
2007-12-13 16:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your mother doesn't mind it would probably be her pleasure for you to have her live with her.
I use to live with my mother-in-law and geez she is so nice, but would say things that were rude. Once she said..."Oh my husband is a very hospitable person, but if it was up to me I wouldn't have other people live with me."
I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but you probably already feel like a burden and when words are exchanged they can become very hurtful without the other party knowing.
It will be a hard decision for you.
2007-12-13 16:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Silly Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to live with my in-laws and it turned out okay. We lived with them for three months (since we got back from our honeymoon) and it turned out okay, but it was awkward. It still turned out okay. You should probably agree that you can take turns making dinner or some stuff like that. Or you can help out your mother in law by helping her clean the house. I'm sure she will probably enjoy having her grandchild at her home. And they are probably very willing, since they have offered you to stay at their home before. Go for it, keep a positive attitude, and it'll turn out okay. It's only three months after all....
2007-12-13 16:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by chocolatecupcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could it be that you are over immaginating about the PERFECT WIFE as any women is there any such a thing perfect wife. Just be yourself you dont have to be whatever other wanted you to be. their be honored for you to live with them
it is not that you have to live with them for the rest of your life
for only three months who knows you might get to know them more and not what you may imagine them to be
for only three months
2007-12-13 17:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Keak T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your inlaws place will be easier on acomidating everyone. just explain all of your concerns to your husband and have him adress his parents to let them know. remember you have to have some time to yourselvs and you never know someone untill you live with them..
2007-12-13 17:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by REALTOR in TENNESSEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the in laws. You do not have to be a perfect anything when you are there. Just be yourself.
2007-12-13 16:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rule of thumb--NEVER TWO COOKS IN THE KITCHEN! So at least in your mom's home, it's a kitchen you've grown up in.
2007-12-13 16:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your in-laws. if you love your husband you will deal with it for the few months that you have to. I think that you will be okay because you'll grow accustomed to it. Anyways, good luck :)
2007-12-13 16:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by missheathernichole11 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋