My fiancé and I were both at home about to have dinner, when there was a knock on our door. A young female motorist had just hit a deer, killing it, just a ways down the road. She asked for a ride, to the casino which is in the opposite direction, she needed a place to be while she waited for a ride from her family but didn't want to be an imposition to us while she waited. It's just 5 min, away, no problem. She told me the story and this is where the question comes from. She was in a long train of cars and the deer picked hers to cross in front of; the guy directly behind her had to swerve to avoid missing her. She was noticeably shaken up from killing the innocent deer but I think she was more hurt by the fact the guy behind her and all the consecutive ones, cared nothing about her. I'm glad she picked our house so somebody could show her some kindness. What would you have done if you were the car behind her or in my position?
2007-12-13 16:20:02 · 8 answers · asked by J.B. Holiday 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We live in a very rural area, there's not going to be anyone getting ripped off stopping for a deer-hit or a flat tire up here. You're very likely to know the person that you're stopping to help.
2007-12-13 16:44:29 · update #1
Exactly what you did. I can't believe people didn't stop. People can be so consumed in their own destinations - it's quite sad. I have heard of stories about car accidents and no one caring to help. Luckily I never witnessed it.
I drove past a motorcyclist accident. The bike was sprawled on the road and a boyfriend frantically trying to help his crying girlfriend. She was lying in an awkward position crying in pain. Everyone stopped. I called my dad who had parametric training in hopes his advice could help. I don't know what happened to the girl, I looked in the town newspaper. But even through this horrible event, it was comforting that people were human enough to stop and help.
Katie W:
Sometimes, it is as simple as pulling over, asking if they are okay or need a cell phone. Helping doesn't require a ride. Most people are okay with defined boundaries of help.
I think the problem is people don't care. While walking in a city with a cup of coffee, I was bumped by someone so hard I spilt it all over myself. The girl just kept on walking. How much would she have lost if she turned around and just said, "Sorry." Probably 1 minute.
2007-12-13 16:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, you don't know just what that stranger may be like. The people behind may have been rude/uncaring ... but they may also have read the story in the paper two days ago about the motorist who stopped to help someone on the side of the road, and got bitten and their car nearly stolen for their trouble. Or, the one a couple months ago where someone knocked at a door begging for help in a car accident, and ended up mugging the homeowner.
You never know if that person is high on something, armed and cranky, or an innocent victim. I'm female. I wouldn't dare let a stranger in my house or in my car, period. No matter how nice they seem, there are some nasty scam artists out there who can feed you a perfectly buyable line. (Guys aren't safe either, but generally make a bit less tempting target.) I would, however, offer what help I could, such as making a call for her, offering something to drink or a chair, etc.
I'm actually really sad thinking about this -- I hate HAVING to think this way to protect myself.
2007-12-13 16:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Katie W 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Time isn't always my friend. I often am in a hurry to get to where I need to go. I can't stop any time I please. And if I stop, I am inviting myself into your problem. I have enough problems of my own.
There are things for a driver to do when these things occur. Know what they are and do them. Learn to be independant.
What is it that someone could do? The deer was already hit. It could not be undone. More cars pulled to the side of the road could complicate traffic and another accident with more serious consequences could occur.
Best Wishes
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2007-12-13 19:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have helped her. I saw her hit the deer. I am always cautious of a random story and a person asking for a ride. But if I saw her hit it, I would certainly help.
2007-12-13 16:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Pentagram 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the car behind I'd have stopped and helped.
In your position, I'd have helped as you did, and probably posted this question on YA when I was next online.
You done good, and you ask a good question; most of us responding answered your question, but I don't think any of us will Answer Your Question.
Well done.
2007-12-13 16:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cappo359 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I was behind her I woulda stopped and helped her out, if I was you I probably wouldn't have answered the door to begin with. Unless I know they're comin, I don't usually answer the door at night
2007-12-13 16:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Luxurious 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i might kick him in his poultry balls... ...for he a great deal dissatisfied me as a baby, and that i will by no ability forget approximately it...it somewhat is too...too painful to speak approximately it...yet have faith me, if he gets kicked in his tiny poultry nuts, then he merits it. *cries*
2016-11-26 22:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l would help anyone who needs it. period
That is one good deed you've shown. Bless you.
2007-12-13 17:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋