how do i let my bf of 5 yrs that I don't want to be with him anymore?I am more concerned with if he will b okay than what is best 4 me.He didn't have a good childhood & i want him 2 have a good adulthood.We have lived 2gether for 3 yrs and i make a little more$ than he does, and i know that he can't afford to pay rent and bills by himself, his ma don't want him 2 move home.i always took care of paying bills he would just give me cash.He tried 2 take care of them but it didn't go so well, we ended up getting behind so I took over again.I have $5000in cc debt &am stressed about that.1 of the things that bothers me so much is that I feel like I do a lot 4 him/us and he doesnt offer to help, cooking,cleaning,dishes,laundry,bills, catbox.I asked him to pick up sticks in the yard @the beginning of the summer(been there since last summer) & they still r, w/snow covering em, y couldnt he do that 1 thing?We r both shy &have trouble communicating feelings 2 each other. Help
2007-12-13 15:59:41 · 6 answers · asked by lucky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's a guide to breaking up: http://www.bofads.com/stories/breakup2.htm
I am not sure you'll want to do the stuff they suggest, but it's funny!
2007-12-14 04:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Question Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just sit him down and tell him how you've been feeling, and be really honest - try not to be shy. Tell him how he has disappointed you by not doing his share and how you are stressed about your financial situation. Also tell him that time apart will allow both you to gain full control of your lives and as a result, both of you will be better off.
Don't worry about ruining his "adulthood"; it seems like he hasn't had to really be one yet since you've been taking care of him - essentially acting as his mother. He needs this break as much as you do, he needs to become a mature adult and take responsibility in his life. Once he does this, he will be a much better, happier person and so will you! Good luck, and don't delay the conversation. That way, you will be happier sooner :)
2007-12-14 00:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by CoolKid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be honest with him. Tell him that you need to move forward in your life. His hangups and insecurities are, as harsh as it sounds, his problem. You live with this man so it should be that hard to tell him how you feel about things. It sounds like it's time to call it quits, so don't beat around the bush...just do it.
2007-12-14 00:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication may save your relationship. you said you both have problems expressing feelings, maby if you both expressed your feelings the state of you relationship will change. after 5 years don't you realize that you have to nag the man to get him to do the household chores. they will do it the first time you ask just so they don't have to hear you fuss about it, trust me i know.
2007-12-14 00:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward. Talk to him nicely.
If he is willing to change, give him a chance.
If not, then ask him
What's the value of your love relationship?
He should be able to understand.
AGML
2007-12-14 00:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him about it. If you guys have dated for five years im sure you can have an adult conversation and discuss things rationaly.
2007-12-14 00:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Cadirac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋