I am so tired of my fiance's 14 kid threatening to kill me. The kid threatens to kill me when he has a temper tantrum and becomes defiant. First he acts abnormal and immature, then he cusses me and/or his dad, then he refuses to mind, and if any type of discipline is suggested by me(take away his computer or guitar), he threatens to kill me. He sometimes gets graphic with his threats. He has said he would get a kinife and cut off my head.
The kid has threatened to kill me at least 10 times in the last four months.
Is the kid breaking the law? if so, what can be done about his threats? I want to call the police.
2007-12-13 15:54:49 · 17 answers · asked by Rosee 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
My fiance knows his child threatens me. He sees and hears most of the incidents. he thinks his kid is just joking.
One time the boy threw a screw driver at my head.
2007-12-13 16:13:53 · update #1
more info:
The boy sees a counselor but the counselor hasn't really helped. The counselor told me to call the police when the kid threatens me. The boy's dad told me I couldn't call the police.
2007-12-13 16:15:46 · update #2
Well, he just threatened to shoot me with a gun, becasue he didn't want to take a shower.
2007-12-15 07:33:36 · update #3
Your fiance is wrong. You can call the police if the boy alarms or disturbs you. HE can be arrested and taken to juvenile hall. He can also be charged with making the threats. Perhaps, if you call the police, the boy will threaten the officer too, and recieve a valuable education on making threats.
2007-12-14 00:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes--therapy for the brat teenager--and an operation for fiance to get a bigger backbone.
You and your fiance should confront him together--never separate-- should he make such a threat and let him know that neither of you will tolerate his abuse.
You should also realize that he is a teenager--and he is going to have all sorts of issues so maybe a little self confidence--like organized sports or some hobby where he can be around adults he has to respect.--Make sure they are good people!.
But ---someday in the next year, if he is not already.
He will be stronger and faster than you and he is already threatening you, I would say it will only get worse.
He is just beginning his teenage tantrum years.
Drinking, drugs, and trying to fit in with his idiot friends.
You should probably break off your engagement to your fiance and move on. If not you will have to deal with that monster until he grows up sometime around 22-25.
That or keep your doors locked at night until you can kick the kid out when he turns eighteen.--then he becomes our problem.
BUT DEFINITELY THERAPY!!!
2007-12-14 00:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by kejjer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest finding a different therapist, possibly a psychiatrist. He shouldn't be threatening graphically to kill you, and especially throwing things at your head. If it doesn't get better, I wouldn't advise going through with the marriage. You'll only have to continue to deal with his kid. It's possible he's just angry because he feels you aren't his real parent and are trying to take the place of his mother. Is your fiance recently divorced? If the boy knew his mother, he may be having a very hard time dealing with you seemingly taking her place. Definitely find a better therapist/psychiatrist, they should be spotting these possible problems and working on them.
2007-12-14 02:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sandcrab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are in this position.
I seriously suggest anger management. This has gone out of your control. When a child does not heed to your warnings, then they aren't scared of you. And they aren't scared of doing anything to you. Trust me, some kids can be VIOLENT.
Maybe you could ask him why or try to get him therapy or something.
good luck. =]
edit: considering YOUR latest updates, my update on my answer would be to definately get anger management. pobably not therapy because for a kid like him he probably feels like you think he's mentally ill or something and that will upset him more. he is not mentally ill. he just simply hates you. you seem nice to me and all =] its just that he dislikes you because you are not his birth mother. i suggest you talk this over with your fiance and tell him that you are in danger because kids his age acting like him are not scared to seriously hurt you. the threats are not minor, they are serious. make him understand that you NEED to call the police to keep him and yourself safe.
and maybe he's into some bad cliques that do drugs or something. if he wears dark clothing and acts like a gangster than i suggest you add him into some clubs like drama and even if he hates it, he will end up liking it if not just a little bit but nonetheless liking it in the end. and maybe that will change his attitude. he could be influenced a lot by the kids around him. trust me, unless you've got a conscience made of steel, you will cave in under the pressure to do things and behave a certain way.
2007-12-13 23:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by lily 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be very leery. Do you really want to stay in this relationship? There have been a lot of news stories about teens committing violent acts. This sounds like more than a teen just lipping off.
Since this is not your child, you have little authority over him. Maybe he needs counseling. You need to keep yourself safe. Talking to the police may be a good idea.
2007-12-14 00:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This child needs help .He is taking his anger out on you .You or his dad need to talk with his family DR. and see if there is some kinda therpy out there for him .Let him know you love him and that you love his dad. Sometimes the schools have special therist that come in to help childern with problems I WOULD NOT TAKE IT LIGHTLY i WOULD SURE let someone know.. you never can tell whats on there minds now days..
2007-12-14 00:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, the kid has anger issues...
My little cousin has the same thing, he always threatens me, and he once took a pair of scissors and started chasing me with them...
What I did???
I took my carabiner clip that had all my house/car keys on it, clenched it in my fist, and then gave him a black eye...
He went to juvenile detention for a while because he threatened me, it was considered assault with a deadly weapon for minors...
And from now on I carry a blade on my person at all times near him...
2007-12-13 23:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
boarding school..
but if not talk to your fiance, tell him all the threats youve got, and that if your fiance dosnt do something about it you wont be able to take it anymore.
i would send a kid like that to boot camp
2007-12-17 19:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He possibly is.
Minor question though, have you told your fiance about this?
(( I know you said that he cusses at his dad/your fiance, I assume, but that doesn't mean he threatens you while he's around. ))
2007-12-13 23:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't live in the same house with the kid. He at least needs residntial counseling.
2007-12-13 23:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by orlagh celeste 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋