my whole life i have had problems with girls. i am 17 and have never had a girlfriend, whenever i am talking to a girl my stomach tightens/tenses up and i say things that sound very awkward as i don't know what to say. i'm even like this with girls that are just my friends (which i have very few female friends) i am a very attractive guy and have been told so many times; i'm not concerned about my looks. just talking to girls that are my friends i always find myself avoiding eye contact or feeling very uncomfortable. idk what it is. am i thinking about sex with the person i'm talking to? do i not know what to say? i just don't understand how some of the ugliest losers in the school can get a girlfriend and i can't. i don't even know how a relationship works. i do know that i have a fear of marriage.. being stuck with the same person for eternity.. and i have a fear of a future spouse becoming fat. idk. i just don't know. please help me, i dont want to be forever a lonely virgin.
2007-12-13 15:54:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if your attractive that makes it more difficult to explain but i'll try anyway. The reason all this happens is because you have insecurities. This usually leads to you thinking that you don't look good enough so I aren't confident. Apparently that is not the case. Therefore, this insecurity must be coming from what you explained to be, RELATIONSHIP FEARS. You just find it hard to let the walls down and be close to someone because you are not ready for any commitments. I'm sure at 17 not many girls are running around looking for husbands either so if you find a girl that you have feelings towards, you should start talking to her more intimately you know take a few steps towards a relationship. Get her number, start calling her, ask her out on a date, and another and another, then ask her to be your g/f. It works itself out from there, but the first few steps are your's (since your a guy). Just don't let your fear of relationships get in the way. If you can let your walls down I'm sure you'll find a girl that one day you do want to spend ETERNITY with lol. Until then don't be so discouraged but thoughts like that. Take care and good luck!
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my whole life i have had problems with girls. i am 17 and have never had a girlfriend, whenever i am talking to a girl my stomach tightens/tenses up and i say things that sound very awkward as i don't know what to say. i'm even like this with girls that are just my friends (which i have...
2015-08-06 08:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... you sound interesting!!!
first, know that there may actually be several girls that like you and are intimidated by you since you don't talk to them. seriously.
second, you're just gonna have to practice. I know it's corny, but think of things to talk to girls about before the conversation starts. girls are intimidated by awkward situations as much as you are.
also, try to meet a girl who you know has the same interests as you. hang out with her. even if you don't end up together, you will gain confidence with girls.
Just remember, you're hot! just smile and talk. they'll be thrilled.
2007-12-13 16:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by supergurl111689 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to take with ur female friends about it and keep practicing talking with them. it will help you alot and next time you meet a girl, it'll be easy for you to talk to them frankly.
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2017-02-15 22:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my you sound just like me im 18 and good looking so ive been told many times honestly and im horrible with wemon , and i got a job and a very atractive girl was inntrested in me we dated didnt last long but still was a fun change, it takes time one day some one unexpected will fall into your lap just put yourself in alot of new situations that is what i did
2007-12-13 16:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by njmizerny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend used to be like that and he ended up like ernie on george lopez.Ugly fat and alone.I think you just need to start talking to more girls and just ask questions,let them do most of the talking and go from there.If you dont try u will never get better.
2007-12-13 16:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by some guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude give it time man. Dont even worry about it. your 17 not 80. You are not even ready to be commited to a marriage so just be glad that you dont have to worry about a girl thinking you are.
2007-12-13 16:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by JC08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋