im 40 and my daughters 17 and shes pregnant. my husband kicked her out of the house ( i was very upset) and shes in with her boyfriend. he has another kid and the mother left the baby with him. they are very responsible. the only thing is that in the house its the boyfriend,mydaughter, step sister, and 3 step brothers and step mom and dad. one of the step brothers have a crush on my daughter and he walks in their room when shes changing or when shes in the shower, how can i get her to come back home and make her boyfriend and her step child come live with me and my husband.
2007-12-13 15:49:26 · 11 answers · asked by Cheyanne L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my husband wants her to come back. and he feels really bad for kickin her out
2007-12-13 16:05:16 · update #1
Who do you have to convince your husband or your daughter?
If your husband has stopped being a Putz and is willing to be civil to your daughter I would think that very many encounters with the step bro and she would be happy to come home, but she might want him and his other child also are you prepared for the whole kit and kaboodle.....These are questions you need to discuss with your husband before starting asking her to come home.. He has to be alright with the arrangements and so does she,,,It is not going to be an easy task since Dad already broke her heart by kicking her out...They are both hurting.. and you are in the middle not an enviable spot to be in. How do you feel about babies Dad, about accepting his other child.... You have A LOT to think about....
Prayers are with you all...
2007-12-13 16:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a simular situation at seventeen. I was pregnant and my dad kicked me out. I think your first step should be to talk to your husband. If he does not want her there there is no use getting her hopes up for a better way of life. if your husband and you agree to let her come home then I would be completely honest with her. Tell her it is not going to be easy for you and your husband to get used to having her boyfriend living with you but everyone is going to try.
I think the important thing is you open the door. Let her know you are there for her. It is a scary thing being seventeen and pregnant. Knowing you have someone to count on can make all the difference.
2007-12-14 00:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you love her & you want to help when the baby gets here. The place they are living in now is over crowded. Just be honest & ask her to come back. The step brother sounds creepy.
2007-12-13 23:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by shameless412 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first have a one on one open talk with her. Voice your concerns and let her know how it's in HER best interest to move in with u. Tell her she will have her own room with her boyfriend and they will have a lot more privacy then they do now. Tell her you will talk to your husband and work things out. Try to develope your relationship with her and talk to her boyfriend too. Tell them you will help them get back on their feet and will help them when the baby comes.
Hope this help and works! Good luck
2007-12-13 23:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Micah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to tell her that he is sorry and that he overreacted. Throwing a minor into the street is not a fatherly thing to do. He can then tell her that he wants the three of them and the baby when it gets here to live at your house. See what they say.
2007-12-14 00:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough ..very tough ...first lets hope he is a nice boyfriend to your daughter and she is not involve with a abusive boyfriend ...2nd ...you should be helping them find there own home ..don't open a can of worms ..when bringing in the boyfriend and child...ohhh no girl ...i guarantee..you there would be problems..i hope your daughter is telling her boyfriend about the step brother ..if not urge her to tell ..him or he will think she likes him too ..or ..worst he would think the baby she is carrying is not his...i wish you all the luck ...having a grandchild is beautiful..
2007-12-14 00:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by gengen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to both go and take them to lunch or something and talk about a plan for them to move forward in their life. How they can benefit from being with you and your husband. You want them to eventually be able to be strong enough to be on their own. Can they save money by being with you? Be careful not to take control. Its their life and they need to grow up and find themselves. Your just there for guidance and support. The grandparents role!!!!
2007-12-14 08:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Most of the time, the fathers need "cool off" time....meaning your husband...not baby daddy. She will see that she needs her mom at this crucial time. I don't know about baby daddy & his kid living with you. Are you really ready to take on THAT responsibility? I wouldn't invite them just yet.
2007-12-13 23:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Micaela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least, get your daughter a good keyed lock for her bedroom door over there... and that can be the introduction to your conversation about getting them to move over to your house.
2007-12-14 01:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that your husband was angry and he is very sorry and have a sit down with her to explain that where they are living now is unhealthy and that you want her to be safe and would like to help her with this time. i know when i was pregnant i was scared to have my parents know esp my dad so maybe tell him to contact her
2007-12-14 01:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by beccaboolynn20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋