Is this a complete rejection? No more chance?

Question

I am a college student, and I met this girl from a club organization. We are both premeds while she is in her third year and I am in second.

We have been friends for about 2 months, and we went out once. Since she was extremely busy, she couldn't go out anymore. I asked her out like twice, but she declined them all. I thought that was over, but she was willing to study with me even though we studied different subjects. After study, we had dinner together at campus many times.

Today, on the day before her final, I just spent more than 2 hours to answer her question in organic chemistry, so she could ace the final exam tomorrow. Then I asked her to go out and have a dinner with me after the final, but she made excuses and declined.

So, this is the third time rejection. I feel like I am a complete loser. I even planned to take the most difficult premedical with her, so I could help her to get an A.

Is this pretty much game over? No more chance? What should I do?

Answer 1

she likes you, but you shoulda banged her when you met
lotta girls got cold meat syndrome, dont want a guy that they are comfortable with or know too well. She is probably fairly shallow in sexual preferences. and sex is important to a lot of girls, very unlikely you will get her to change her sexual choices. with 3 billion females on the planet, and almost all of them looking for a doctor, I would have to say that your insistence that you date this particular girl is somewhat a matter of egotism on your part. Reality check, is achieving your 'goal' more important than just kickin it with someone who likes you back?

Answer 2

Hi. This girl sounds a little insecure and it sounds as if she has trouble trusting people because she said no even before her exams. Maybe she is just nervous and scared as she has trust issues. Another reason why she could be like this is because she is really anxious and freaked out about her final exams, Wouldn't you be freaked out? She may be just focusing on work. It's hard to say if it's 'game over' or not, because everyones different and so is every situation. Just wait and see then ask her out. Don't question her about you not going out much with her, because she will then get possibly angry or upset.
Good luck.
Hope this has helped.

Answer 3

Stop helping her to try to get an A. Concentrate on your work. Maybe she is using you, there are people like that in the world you know.

You are not a loser just because she declines. She is actually the loser, she's missing out on someone who is smart, helpful and caring. Find someone that will appreciate you!

BTW, I think those attributes will make you a great doctor someday.

Answer 4

No, I don't feel that you are a loser, You yourself said she was busy, busy, busy. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she already had plans after the finals. You never know. If you ask her on a day you know she has nothing to do and she says no,well that would be that then! Good Luck!

Answer 5

She may have been using you to get a free tutor. If the semester is ending, ask her to go out after her last exam and celebrate. If she declines because she is too busy immediately after her classes have ended, she's making excuses. At least that will give you your answer.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Either she uses you to help her study and get good grades, or she is so into her studies, she has no time in her life for personal relationships. In pre med sometimes, the student has made the plan to not get involved with anyone, other than just friends, no serious relationships.

Answer 8

I'd say you got a chance, probably she is just tired out from all the studying and need time by herself after the final exam. But just in case you don't have a chance, don't let it ruin your life.

Answer 9

um well, yes im afraid she only likes you as a friend, but in the other hand, you should of ask her out after her final, well try 1 more time, if she declines, move on man, more fishes in the sea=)

Answer 10

Sounds like you are being a soft touch, giving her all that help, and she's taking advantage. Congratulations on your persistence, but I think you have no chance. Also, if she is just using you, then why would you want to be with someone like that?

Also, why are you jeopardising your own career just to help her out? Don't take exams for someone else - take them for YOU and YOU ALONE.