okay, this morning, i asked my dad if he would drive me to school, but he said no cuz he had too many appointments later that afternoon to be able to come and pick...so, i asked my friend for a ride...when school ended i called my grandma to see if she could come pick me and my friend up - we were originally going to walk home, but decided otherwise...to call my grandma...i used my friends cell phone...a little bit before my grandma got to the school...my friend and i spotted our other friends riding their bikes towards the library...so we started talking to them and decided to go to the library and volunteer with them...when my grandma got there, we had her drive us to the library instead of my house...when i was in the middle of organizing books, my dad walked in and said, "ur in trouble, we're leaving, let's go." i was so confused! when we were in the car...he started telling me how irresponsible it was not to call him and blah-blah-blah...but he recently took my phone away...
2007-12-13 14:30:38 · 6 answers · asked by smashley:) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so, how does he expect me to be able to call him?!? i didn't PLAN on going to the library at first...i was going to go home, and CALL HIM and TELL HIM I WAS AT HOME!!! plus, while i was still at the library...i asked my other friend if i could borrow his cell phone - i must admit, that i wasn't going to use it to call my dad...but he wouldn't give it to me anyways...he gave it to the friend that had driven me to school that morning...once i started actually WORKING though - i was doing homework before - i had completely forgotten that my friend had a cell phone...plus, in the back of my mind...i thought that my grandma would have told my dad that i was with her...not that i depend on her for that kind of stuff...but i just didn't think it was that big of a deal - calling him...since he was apparently too busy to even pick me up for school...so i wouldn't have WANTED to call and interupt him and get him mad at me...now, he's blaming ME that my grandma and mom are upset with him...HELP
2007-12-13 14:35:52 · update #1
i know it's long...i'm sorry...lol
answer anyways please...
2007-12-13 14:36:30 · update #2
There are other phones in the library that you could have used. You should have called your father. It was not your grandmother's responsiblity, it was yours.
2007-12-13 14:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the question is here. But, I'll give it a try. Dad is probably upset because Grandma called to tell him that you call for a ride home but instead she drove you and your friend to the library? Was it out of her way? Was she in the middle of something? Or was Dad upset because you used a cell phone and he had prohibited cell phone use for you? (In today's day and age I would rather you did have one in case you do need to call someone for a genuine emergency.) It's important to know where you are and what you're doing. Take a deep breath and see if your Dad could explain what he is upset about.
2007-12-13 22:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mary Lou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live or what your circumstances are, but your dad could be very concerned for you but since he is busy can only "show" that via control and fussing. He may not "trust" grandma completely either (not that she's awful, but maybe there's history of lack of responsibility or baggage between them). Sounds like you are stuck in the middle.
If he wants communication ask him how he wants you to do that (without a cell phone) so the he is comfortable and you are cared for. This is a big adult level step, so be strong.
2007-12-13 22:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Bev B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure we aren't the same person? LOL! I lived the same situations about 15 years ago. things will be better when you move out, unfortunately parents don't change until they become grandparents and see how hard they were on you. But don't have kids now, just know that they will be treated the way you should of been.
2007-12-13 22:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You yanked everyone's chains by crying "wolf".
You dragged two adults down to that school to pick you up and then left the pick-up spot.
They have a right to be angry for being yanked around.
You have lost major credibility with them.
2007-12-14 02:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have called your father and let him know what was going on. He is the parent and you are the child. He has the right to know where you are.
2007-12-13 22:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋