I am in a relationship where my partner is very excited about kissing me in the part where you essentially go to the bathroom for a number 2.
Despite me and him being exceptionally clean I consider this to be totally gross and have said no to him. Am I being weird? Is this what adventurous couples really get up to. He also likes the idea of me placing my finger in the same place for him which I have also refused to do as I see the whole thing as unhygenic..
Advice please.. his fixation with the element of the body seems to be the only way he can orgasm although as I have said before I have not gone there at all...
2007-12-13 13:41:57 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never do anything that makes you uncomfortable. I am happily married and neither of us asks the other to do anything that makes the other uncomfortable.
You are not being weird, that is kinda weird what he is asking for and personally I would not do it.
There are lots of ways to make one another happy so start looking for other stuff. Get a book, pick it out together :) :)
2007-12-13 13:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...well, my boyfriend is pretty much the same way. The idea of those things really turn him on. Although at first I thought it was unsanitary I began to think about it, and well as long as you're clean there shouldn't be a problem. Open your mind, try new things with him and see what happens. You might love it or hate it but at least give it a shot.
2007-12-13 13:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like this really older guy in his mid 40's that I dated and got rid of really quick. It seemed like this freak of a man has done everything sexually possible to a woman that his mind kept focusing on anal sex, anal kissing AKA tossing salad and sticking a finger in anus to orgasm. He had to go! Weirdo!
In no way shape or form should you abide by what sounds like an old freak who attract younger women with the misperception that his behavior is experience. NOT!! The risky behavior is not good because it only leads to weirder freakier chit and he sounds like he will never be satisfied, even if you conform or agree to that freaky behavior.
We women tend to be down for whatever, not realizing when you have doubt and do it anyway, you are only cheapening yourself and being something you are probably not - a hoe. He sounds too risky, i.e. HIV, like a guy who will do another guy in the butt and try and convince you that chit is normal! Hell to the nah!!!
Toss his azz to the curb.... not his salad, neither! LOL!
2007-12-13 13:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm....not really my cup of tea, but some people like that, particularly men. Each to their own, I say!
No, you're not weird, everyone has different turn-ons. Don't do anything you don't want to do, but if you are interested in experimentation, insist on wearing latex gloves or something....
2007-12-13 14:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Vicsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys find stimulation of the prostate gland pleasant, the easiest way being through the way you mentioned, it may be somewhat out of the ordinary, but I don't think its uncommon.
Maybe hes feeling experimental?
2007-12-13 13:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by The Seal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would never do this with my partner and if makes you so uncomfortable than you need to tell him and explain why you have a problem with it. this doesnt seem a very respectful way to express your love for one another, so i would be very careful as if he's asking this of you now, he may ask more from in the future which you arent prepared to do either.
2007-12-13 20:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once woke up early like 2 am and half asleep gave my x's a r s e the tounge treatment Accidently forgot my compass or something she was sleeping, honestly it had no taste, though i wasnt ploughing and it diddnt bother me in the slightest, but seeing her writhe in delight and extasy was the best bit. she woke up having orgasms. i think your bloke bats for the oposing team lovey.. dont tell my ma about the tounge thing shed have me in church or something
2007-12-13 21:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by insainejobhunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANAL Fixation.......
not UNcommon, but yes Gross, just the same, and very UNsanitary.
imagine him doing, and then wanting to Kiss you.... ewwwwwww
he is full of it...if that is the 'only way he can orgasm', he is a liar AND gross......
stand your ground. it is your body, and if you do not want it messed with .................. DON"T.
he might be a pervert....be careful.
2007-12-13 13:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rudy J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rimming
Nothing wrong with it if you are happy to let him do it,if you do agree before you have this fun wash around there
And for anyone who is saying he might be gay Shut up you dont know what you are talking about
2007-12-13 21:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yea it is gross, but I'm a bit older, so if my man wanted to do that to me, then no I wouldn't stop him, maybe if I was a little younger I would probably feel too uncomfortable, but as far as sticking my finger in there, I wouldn't be interested in doing that.
2007-12-13 13:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋