me and my bf have been together for more than 2 years we are pretty serious.he will be 19 a couple ofweeks before I turn 18 this upcoming february. he lived at my house with my parents in his own room for about 6 months then he just moved back to his moms house cuz since he is incollege & he has a car to pay and time for a part time job only and had to pay also my parents for rent his mom finaly desided to be nice and said she will pay for the car if he moved back.so he moved back. 3 weeks ago she is very rude to him and can be bipolar and .she never keeps her world orchanges what ever she said.... and me at my house I am out of high school now I dont start college until june08 and I am getting a job soon with my bf and we were thinking that as soon as i turned 18 and got a job and a car for myself we can move to a nice aparnment together.that is our plan i kno my mom would not approve because she said i have to be married to move out.sso weird so what should i do about that,
2007-12-13 13:31:28 · 3 answers · asked by tink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
honestly unless your absolutly posotive that this is the guy for you i would hold off on moving in together. i would finish college and start your career before you do anything like that. if yall are really in love with each other then waiting will be no problem. anyways its your choice, but think about it for a while first k?
well hope everything goes well!
good luck!!!!!
2007-12-13 13:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has no ability or right to say you can't move out before you are married, you can do what you want, and in fact you SHOULD move out when you turn 18 BUT you SHOULD NOT move in with someone you aren't married to. If you want a chance for the this relationship to work, organize yourself so that you have your place, he has his, and when you get MARRIED, you move in together. Go down disaster mode if you wish, I'm just trying to help. Remove your mother from the picture as far as how you think about this, she has an alterior motive in keeping you as her baby but she is right in that she wants you to be married before living with someone, but to say you can't move OUT is outrageous, and the fact that you would even accept that kind of domination is more than those of us listening to this should have to bear. You two need to slow down, get it together, get control of your lives, get your education, have fun, date, get married if you like, then get a place together, then have kids, then grow old together, do things in order and in an orderly way, so you can be happy.
2007-12-13 13:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away from his problems hasn't helped him. I think your b/f needs to get his act together and stand on his own two feet before he gets you involved. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't be encouraging you to do something that your parents don't want you to do. You're dependent on them, and if you don't think so, find out what happens to your health insurance if you move out.
You have all the rest of your life to be responsible for someone else. To make a lifetime of choices at the age of 17 is foolish.
2007-12-13 13:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋