My sister is 14 years old and I'm 26. She's all into emo and that bs which I hate. Anyways I love her with all my heart cuz she's my sister. A while back she told me she cut herself. It brought great alarm to me and she swore to me up and down that she wouldn't do it again. So I agreed I wouldn't tell my father. Last week, I found out she did it again, cuz she posted it on myspace. Not the cut but just the fact that she did it. I was so enraged that I called her and started yelling at her and blamed it on the emo image. I was mad to think that she's following this lifestyle that teaches you to do this to yourself and thought it was all to blame. I had it finally and told our dad and he doesn't get that it is wrong to do this to yourself. He isn't seeking help for her, and tells me I'm making a bigger deal of it then it has to be. What do I do? I love her with all my heart, and don't want to see something happen to her and it sickens me that my dad isn't doing anything.
2007-12-13 13:30:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I was her age I cut myself also....it was mostly a stage and I quickly got over it b/c nobody cared. I guess if I constantly had someone telling me to stop, I wouldn't have. It's not that big a deal.
2007-12-13 13:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by pozitive thinking 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is into the emo style and if she thinks that to be all into the emo style she needs to cut herself, well is just a big stupid way to follow that trend
there is lots of people that are into emo style but dont cut themselves
there are people that are not even into the emo style and are cutters
if she is a cutter not cause she is trying to fit into the emo image, then there are bigger issues with her than, using the emo style. Many people that cut themselves, do it, cause they are depressed, they have been in a dramatic experience and thats the only way they can get their pain out, others think that they deserve to feel pain cause of something that happened to them, and thats they way to punish themselves
if your sister hasnt been into any dramatic situation or depressive, and she is just doing it to fit into the emo image, talk to her and explain to her, doing what she is doing is just plain stu pid to fit into that style. It just shows how childish she is been
No matter what, you need to get it straight and get the truth from her why she is doing it. There is no need for screaming. You need to talk to your father once again and explain to him that what she is doing is not right. If someone at school, sees that , they may report it, specially teachers. The first thing that would come to their mind is that, something very bad is going on with her.
If she is trying to show what she did, is just to get attention from other people. Which, I think is dumb, cause she is not thinking that this may leave scars, and when she gets older, she is not going to like to see them and then she will realize how dumb she acted
If your sister is trying to cover them up, she may be ashame of what she is doing
Also, talk to her and tell her, that no one is going to think that she is cool, or awesome cause she is posting on Myspace about her cutting. If she is doing it, as a cry for help, there are better places to ask for help, home, and not a place where people wont understand what her problem is, and they may not even provide any help, like family would.
good luck
2007-12-13 13:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant blame her "emo" lifestyle. I did this when I was younger and I wasnt into emo at all, I was depressed though. But I did grow out of it. Since she posts it on myspace I would think its more of a cry for attention and maybe you can get her to talk to a school conselor or something like that. Also why cutting "feels so good" is because it releases pain relieving endorphins when she does it. For me I did it when I felt out of control or when something upset me it was a way of dealing and I felt good afterwards... I grew out it and I am sure she will too.
2007-12-13 14:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have been doing this to themselves well before "emo" existed.
Have you actually seen these cuts? You're old enough to know what a diary is and how alot of the stuff in a diary is BS and myspace is nothing but a diary on the internet. Again, if you haven't seen it, you might want to ask to see.
But the bottom line is that you are not her parent. Your father has decided its not worth getting upset about and really there isn't anything you can do about that.
2007-12-13 13:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are proper! She will have to have stood up for you when you consider that that's HER loved ones its now not relatively your situation to deliver up any confrontational topics. If they stated that on your presence think what they will say in the back of your again. All humans make errors and we're all slightly bias twards different races and nationalities however as we succeed in maturity we study to manage theses impulses and recognize the ones round us. however the trouble right here isnt relatively the loved ones (they will have ment it they have got now not who is aware of however they don't seem to be the one that is in a courting with you)...Its your gilfriend announcing not anything I wouldnt stick with the woman (that's simply how I am) transfer onto any person who's inclined to get up for you and no less than say some thing for your behalf . what's she oblivious? if that is so you must uncover a lady with a mind who makes use of it to be sympathetic and know-how and to protect her accomplice
2016-09-05 13:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by rothweiler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋