I'm 22 and live in my own apartment. My mom and dad are going through a divorce. My dad cheated on my mom with a girl who was a lot younger than him.He is also on meth.This is the second time this has happened too. Yesterday he arrived back at my mom's house and she let him in (no idea why). I called today and my mom asked if my sister called and what she had to say about this. I said she was pretty peeved about it. My dad started yelling and freaking out. My mom said bye and hung up. She called back saying she called the cops and that she might need me to drive up there. Im freaking out. I love my mom (not my dad really) but am sick off all this. What do I do?
2007-12-13 13:27:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She needs to have the police REMOVE him from the house and not give up on that demand, for fear of violence. The details can be worked out later, but she cannot put herself in the position of being the victim of violence with a drug addict. You can't be going home every time something happens, and that just becomes an enabling factor anyway.
2007-12-13 13:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be very frightening for you. Nothing knocks us back to childhood faster than our parents having issues.
You can't fix this for your parents. Your mom may be between a rock and a hard place but frankly I sure don't know what you could do about it. I don't think there is anything wrong, unless your mom is very elderly or disabled in telling her that you love her and you support her decision but you would rather not be pulled into the middle of their mess. Encourage your mom to call the police if she needs to, but keep your distance. Call her every evening and let her use you for a sounding board but keep your distance. You don't have to feel bad about that, I don't think your mother is right in pulling you into something you can't solve.
2007-12-13 21:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to take care of your own life.
You realize your mother has problems of her own making. She needs professional help and you can find out where she can get it. If she refuses,you need to stop enabling her . If she wants to keep taking your father into her home she is causing her own problems. get her professional help.
Make you own life and get an education and learn from your parents mistakes.
2007-12-13 21:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by secrethaven45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and help your mother as she may not understand what a person on meth can do. And try to get a court order against your father too.
2007-12-13 21:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for your mum and support her with love, thats all you can do.
2007-12-13 21:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by cherry babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋