Ive been with this guy for 7 months and i love him to death. The problem is he has a 2 year old son and no place to live. He is looking to buy a house and trying to have his son legally on a full time basis. Im a mom with a 7 year old and i know how important our children are to us. I miss him terribly and want to see him but there is no time. He takes his son every weekend and works alot during the week, im willing and trying to be patient but i cant help but to feel so lonely some nights. I want to be there for him and wait this whole thing out because i feel he is worth it, but how do i handle feeling so lonely sometimes. We are in our late 30's and i dont want anyone else.
2007-12-13 13:07:27 · 20 answers · asked by Steviemercury 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why are you so in love with a man who doesn't have time for you?
if he felt the same way about you...he would make and find the time to share his life with you!
take care
2007-12-13 13:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by littleheadcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to date at all when you are a single parent, particularly if you are dating someone else who is a single parent. When you are the parent of small children, it is very time consuming, and there is not much time for much of anything! It is hard when you are feeling lonely - but look at it this way, would you want him to wait if you were on the other end of this equation? Just as you need to be patient with your 7 year old, you need to be patient with the situation, if he is the one you want. But you don't just have to sit and be lonely, you can still do other things with other people, lady friends, groups, online (like us, LOL). Hang in there, and be a good example for your 7 yr old!
2007-12-13 21:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, our children are important, in fact they are the most precious thing on earth.
However, he is not showing any respect to you if he can't even show you the affection that he should do. And please don't protect him on this if you do then you are putting yourself at the back of the queue.
It does not take hours to show your partner that you love them, it only takes a few minutes everyday to give a hug and say thankyou for being there.
YOUR words " a man who has no time for me"
Come on stevieme, get a grip honey, your life and what you want are just as important. You have a seven year old and I bet you give your love equally between your child and your partner, so why can't he.
Don't be used honey, tell him you understand what he is trying to do but you aint no doormat. Enjoy your life now, because if he wanted you he wouldn't be looking to buy a house would he, if he wanted the same as you then why can't he build a home with you.
Please don't be offended that's not my intention but hey "smell the coffee" yeah
good luck and merry xmas to you.
2007-12-13 21:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is he has his plate full, I'm sure you realize. He's in a transition period so you either have to wait it out or move on and just date in the mean time. If you are lonely, then he isn't fulfilling this need and you have to realize that you are important and that he can't be that guy for you, right now.
Talk with him and see where you both stand. Does he want the same things that you do? Make sure you're on the same page and that will give you peace of mind.
2007-12-13 21:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find keeping myself busy wards off the loneliness. If he's worth it and you want to wait then be patient and keep busy. Make sure you do make some time for each other every now and again though... even for an hour or two ya know... quick dinner at McDonalds or something like that! Best of luck.
2007-12-13 21:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, no man is worth this stress. If he don't have time for you, it obviously means you don't rank as high on his list as he is on yours. Do you want to be in that position for the rest of your life?
I wouldn't give my time of day to anyone who puts me on the sideline like this. Life's too short and you should value yourself more than this. Go focus your mind on other things more constructive and rewarding, like spending time with your 7 year old who needs your nurturing and attention more that this guy who's wasting your time.
Besides, men are mashochistic. The moment he sees you moving on with your life, you bet he'd come running after you. But if he sees you hanging around pathetically waiting for him, he'd only take you for granted. So take charge of your life and move on, if he comes after you, all the better. If not, at least you know where you stand.
2007-12-13 21:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Doglover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. tuff situation... well i agree you should work it out because he seems to be a guy who just wants to support him self and kid. yea being lonely is tuff i kno (the love of my life is a Marine n is away TOO often) but when the time came when i left him because of his busy schedule i almost lost it knowing that he was no longer mines. im still tryna handle him not always being there but atleast you can say "my sweetie is doing what he has to do right now...but not forever"
- i really do wish you good luck
2007-12-13 21:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Drea* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he felt the same way about you, he would make the time or make your time together a priority.
Step away from the situation and take a breather from him. Often insecurity makes us believe someone is better than they really are. Dating another man may help clarify things. You deserve someone who values and respect you.
2007-12-13 21:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by ?????? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just budget your time. Make a comfortable schedule for you to meet him because he's always preoccupied. Be expressive!
2007-12-13 21:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by skeptical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to negotiate with him to spend more time, but don't hold your breath - blood is thicker than water!
2007-12-13 21:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by HyperDog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋