Although I have gone on maybe two dates in my entire life, I feel that it may be time to give it a try again now that I will have some more time. I haven't tried it since I was 23 years old about 5 years ago. It's pretty scary getting back into the "game" but it is kind of exciting as well. I still have a lot to look forward to: my first girlfriend, my first kiss etc. While some people tell me I have started much too late, I have so much more to look forward to than they do. I also have a lot to offer a woman! I am employed full time, I am educated, I am secure financially and I live at home with my parents and other adult siblings, which indicates that I am a family man :-) . The question I have though is this: Why do I encounter so much jealousy regarding my situation? More people actually mock it than respect it. I don't want praise but I don't understand the mockery, especially from girls my age. Clearly they are jealous for some reason or they wouldn't make the comments.
2007-12-13 12:45:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, people definitely date in their 20s, 30s and older. Before marriages, after marriages, single and dating their whole life.
I think they mock it because so many young people struggle to get out on their own and declare their own independence. I find it hard to live with my parents after having my own separate life .
That being said, I have some guys friends who are your age, and they share a house, next to their parent's house. They are Egyptian, and I believe the proximity is due to their cutlure.
2007-12-13 12:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by M G M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why would you assume that they are jealous for making the comment? That shows that although you are educated and financially secure, you still have a GREAT deal more to learn in the school of practical experience and the social arena. In fact, the comment about jealousy sounds exactly like something that a middle-aged mother would tell her middle-school-aged child about some critical comments that classmates had made. Is this what your mother told you? It sure sounds like it.
While I am sure that you have a lot to offer a woman, you also have a lot to learn, and these are things you will not learn at home. I don't know if you intend to be humorous when you say it indicates that you are a family man, since you are 28 and live at home with your parents and other adult siblings. I can tell you the reason they are mocking you; and that is, that in this country, most people have lived on their own or with other roommates by the time they are in their mid-20s, and you have evidently had no experience of life outside your family. It is not a plus, never to have had experience living with anyone else; you learn a lot about flexibility and understanding when you have to compromise and live with people who didnt grow up with you. I don't know if you do your own laundry and cooking, or whether it is all done for you, but people assume - perhaps with some reason - that you have been stunted in your emotional growth if you are still living in the bosom of your family. You need to grow up and gain new, independent experiences, or you will never be able to have a family of your own. Yes, they see that you are a family man, allright - they see that all that you are suited to do is to be and stay with your parents and siblings, for ever and ever. What person could ever break into that tight little group?
2007-12-13 13:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 13:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. Are you sure its jealousy? I doubt someone of the opposite sex would be jealous of you. Thats a very wierd concept because usually guys are jealous of other guys for various reasons (status, car, their girlfriend/wife) and the same goes for girls. So, it might not be jealousy. If you are looking forward to meeting someone try to be more positive and start going places to meet people. Its bound to happen. But, I will warn you, girls typically like guys that have their own place--not that being a family man is a complete turn off. lol. We just prefer that you visit your family not live with them.
2007-12-13 12:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Nickie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude people are mocking you because at your age you need to move out and be on your own. Not living with your parents. You can be a family man at your own place just as much.
2007-12-13 12:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by runner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my mid 20's and have never been on a date. I understand what you're saying. People make fun of it. I get it often. They do as though there is something wrong with you. Like you are unattractive & can't find someone. To be honest with you, they have lowered my self esteem. They make me feel ashamed of who I am. The thing I have to tell you is to try to enjoy life. Go on vacations and do things for yourself. There is more to life than just "finding someone."
2007-12-13 12:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by person 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes clearly they are all horribly jealous i wish i could also be 30 yrs old man and never been kissed and still live with my mom u r super cool every1 wanna be u dont listen to the haterz if u also wanna talk about dating and how to do ur first kiss and stuff u can talk to my friend he is 12 but will be 13 in may and he has lots of experience if u need him to teach u just msg.
2007-12-13 12:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by erinp 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they're probably mocking the fact that you live at home with your parents and siblings. you're 28 living at home? why? i just don't understand why you would want to do that... you probably should figure out why it is that you want to be living at home with your parents-before you try getting a girlfriend...
this may be harsh but the answer is pretty clear to me...
2007-12-13 12:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by bamboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with that. the only thing that I can comment on is that you still live with your parents. And people can find that uncomfortable because the privacy is not there as much as they would like.
2007-12-13 12:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by echopark119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm feel the same but I'm in my 30s. People of all ages date. I feel like a little school kid again. It feels alien.
2007-12-13 12:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋