my 2 yr old screams very loud when he doesnt get his way?!!!?

Question

Why is this? If i take something from him... or anyone makes him mad..... he screams at the top of his lungs and stiffens up his body.. he has a very bad temper. Anything i can do for this????

Answer 1

Sounds familiar ... typical two year old stuff!

I've worked in child care and have seen kids do that so many times - now I am a parent of a 2 year old and sometimes I'm either at my wits' end or laughing at the absurdity of his behaviour. And that is really what it is - toddlers are strange little people with no sense at all!

I'm no expert on toddler behaviour but I know of a really good book about it called "Toddler Taming" by Dr. Christopher Green (an Australian Paediatrician) - very practical and common sense ideas. He deals with tantrums too!

With my son, I ignore as much of the whingeing and anger/frustration outbursts as I possibly can. If it involves hurting his little brother or anyone else then there is a more serious reprimand, usually in the form of a strong "No" to begin with - if it continues then it is followed by a time-out or some other consequence that lets him know I won't allow that behaviour. I just remind myself that he is still too young to express himself properly and has so much more to learn and usually this sort of behaviour disappears by the time children are 3 or 4. I have always found it easier working with 3-5 year olds, they are delightful!

Whatever you do to discipline him the key is consistency. Ignore the negative (and respond firmly when you have to), model the behaviour you want to see and talk him through his feelings (e.g. "I can see that you are angry but..." ) and reward positive behaviour as much as you can. All of this will pass eventually.

Good luck!

(Mum of 2 toddlers and former early childhood teacher)

Answer 2

You can kill an adult covering his mouth and sitting on him, doing it to a child is ABUSE. He is testing his boundaries. Keep putting him in his room without toys or breakables until he has been quiet for 10min. Do this every single time he misbehaves. Let him scream without comment. He is going for the attention and reaction from you. Spanking only teaches a child that violence is Ok. If you can hit him it must be all right to hit his sister, etc. He has to learn that misbehavior gets him no attention and a boring timeout. Be sure to complement him when he does nice things like sharing a toy. Good behavior equals good attention. It may take quite a while and there will be reversals but remember you are setting the groundwork for his behavior for the rest of his life.

Answer 3

Very young kids aren't very good at modulating their emotions; they don't have the same control as older kids. As two-to-four-year-olds try to make sense of the world things don't always go their way, and a tantrum is one way to express frustration. Tantrums are common at this time as children are learning to use language, and although kids of two to four understand a great deal of what they hear, they can't always use language to express their needs or their feelings. Two-to-four-year-olds are also trying out ways of establishing their sense of competence, insisting "I can do it myself," and when this turns out not to be true, a tantrum may result. Finally, children in this age range are trying many different actions to solve the problems that they encounter. Temper outbursts at times may simply be a means to resolve a situation from the child's perspective. If adults react in certain ways, sometimes the temper tantrum works.

Answer 4

Ignore it, this is a tantrum. Let him scream let him stiffen up or remove him from the area, put him in time out.

Answer 5

sounds like u have a bad case of a two year old... lol
don't worry so much
he is developing his independence and he is learning what to do to push ur buttons...
you have to be firm at this age
because if u don't the terrible twos will turn into the terrible kid
look up Dr James Dobison's book dare to discipline

Answer 6

You have to be firm and let him scream his lungs out and learn that he won't get his way by throwing a fit.

Did your parents discipline you as a child? There's nothing wrong with a good spanking . . . just don't do it when you are angry . . .

Talk to him after he's calmed down and let him know his behavior is unacceptable. Yes, he's only 2 but they know how to get their way. Let him know it doesn't work.

Yes, its hard . . . but being a parent isn't an easy job.

Answer 7

Do not give in. Give him a stern look, tell him to stop and then ignore him. He wants the attention. When he realizes that screaming will not get him what he wants, he will not do it anymore.

Answer 8

1. never give him what he is screaming for.

2. create a consequence for when he screams (throws a tantrum): like a short nap, time-out, turn off the t.v., no candy, lock up favorite toys, or put him in his room. he has to know that his poor behavior has an immediate consequence.

3. be patient...at this age they are learning how to get what they want, and how to MAKE you give in. never GIVE IN. never let him make you angry, never let him make you cry, and never let him make you stressed. NEVER.

4. you are the parent. prove it.

-hbb

Answer 9

Be firm, my parents always let my sister have her way when she was younger and she is now a teenager and still screeams, tantrums, and cries when she doesn't get her way! Be firm, he must learn that he can't always have what he wants. DISIPLINE!! You will thank yourself later for implementing good disipline now, before it is too late. Good luck!

Answer 10

You have spoiled him. It will be hard to get the control back, but you need to look him in the face and say no with a stern voice. He needs to learn that you are in charge.