So I have been hanging with a girl that I like for around 6 months now. Sometimes we spent everyday together for weeks straight. I told her how I felt and she told me she had feelings for me , but there are some things in her life she has to correct before she can commit. I understood that and I gave her a hug and let it be. Recently I found out she has been in contact with her ex boyfriend ,but every time they talk they end up arguing. I came to conclusion that her problems were with her ex and she had to figure them out before she moved on. She always tells me she is confused and I can tell but she never will tell me whats wrong. A friend of hers wrote me in a christmas card that there are many problems between them and she doesn't foresee a future. She told me to be patient and she will come to me with a loving heart. I am as confused as anyone now. What should I do. I have such strong feelings for her and its so hard being patient especially if I am #2 right now. Looking for advice
2007-12-13 12:20:22 · 5 answers · asked by Tix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just keep hanging in there. It sounds like she really does like you- she just needs to get rid of any leftover feelings for her ex. You really can't blame her though. I know it's been like four months since I split w/ my boyfriend(whom I dated for about 2 months) and I still haven't gotten completely over him. I still even cry about it sometimes... You've just got to give her time- and continue to be gentle and encouraging.
Also, believe me, you are NOT #2 in her heart.
2007-12-13 12:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by hachiehitter4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and understand..In my situation I dated around but whenever he wanted me there I was there because I thought I would be patient and wait around well it was a waste of time after I was there for him and thought we would finally be together he end up marring her! Well of course I was devastated but in time I got over it and now I'm married and happier than ever with three children. So my advice is move on and forget about her and if it is meant for you two to be together ya'll will at the right time.
2007-12-13 12:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by hamc322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what you should do in this situation but you don't like it and it is a difficult choice.This gal has other interests and they don't include you.It is clear that she still has feelings for her ex in spite of the problems they have. While her friend may mean well in asking you to be patient, it does not auger well for you. You can not put your life on hold waiting until your crush makes up her mind to end it with her ex; then wait for her to be ready to date again, and then finally hoping that she will have feelings for you and want to build a romance with you.My suggestion is that as painful as it may be for you, you have to move on and forget about her as a lover but only think of her as a platonic friend.In spite of your strong feelings for this gal, you may eventually have no choice.
2007-12-13 13:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her work some things out and just let her know that you are there for her when she wants to talk.
2007-12-13 12:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by In<3w/myBOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be patient.
2007-12-13 12:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋