i have being going out with this guy just under 6months and we hardly ever go out eg. Cinema,Theatre,Bar etc if anything he would take me out once a month and even then it feels like ive falsed him to take me out. When i ask the reason he says lack of funds or just moans that if i want to go out i should take him out. we chill out at each other houses but he often jumps at a chance to go out with his friends to a club/bar and never once invited me along only in the 1st month of going out. When i go out with my girlfriends he hates if i even mention i guys name but he always talks about the way girls dance at the clubs he goes to and when i point it out he just laughs and says sorry intil the next time he says it again. Whats going on why don't he take me out and what should i do? Just the otherday a guy asked for number to take me out on a date which of course i turned down but it just made me feel less special to my boyfriend who tells me everyday that he loves me. Whats going on?
2007-12-13 11:39:46 · 26 answers · asked by brownskinrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is shallow, self-centered, and a jerk. Whatever his reason, does it matter? I was ok until I read that he "jumps at the chance to go out with his friends" but never takes you out. Screw that. You should be busy for a while. Be a little unavailable.
2007-12-13 11:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't a water spout you are not able to flip it off or flip it on. There isn't any clarification as to why you do not love him most effective you already know that. Maybe it's given that you do not wish to be in a courting now. You want time to suppose approximately your self now, perhaps in view that you simply bought out of an emotional, abusive and manipulative courting you're scared presently. Give it a while and also you could difference your brain. Sounds such as you do like him. Good Luck!!!
2016-09-05 12:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care about satisfying you, but at the same time, what exactly do you want to do? I can understand if it's a movie or theatre or maybe even a bar. But I'd set the bar higher than just that kind of going out, thinking of Disneyland, or maybe go-kart racing.
He says he lacks the funds, but he goes out with his buds.
What you're dealing with is an extremely possessive jealous guy. I don't know how old this guy is, but he sounds like he's not quite as hot as you are. He has insecurities about himself in the relationship that aren't your fault. He needs to deal with those issues, otherwise he's likely to be verbally abusive. If you're the breadwinner between the two of you, then you SHOULD take him out.
You asking him out can solve one question: "Is he being completely honest about it being fund-related, or is he just being a jealous *****?"
If you offer to take him out, and he resists, or you go out and he's being an asshole, then you have your answer.
I think this relationship is done. After trying my idea, if it's still crappy, get out. He's not willing to bend a little, why should you? You need a guy that's excited about you, someone that wants to please you. 6 months is still early in a relationship, and if he's bogging down this early, then he's never going to take you out later.
So he loves you, wooptie-doo. A dog can love me, but that doesn't mean I have to take care of a stray dog. He sounds like a loser that doesn't care about your happiness. Don't be afraid to lose him, because not much will be lost.
You owe it to yourself, and don't rely on relationships to feel secure. You're in control here, and in command. Don't take that ****.
2007-12-13 11:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by visual K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being an idiot, that's what's going on. In situations such as yours, it's up to the woman to lead the way. He claims it's lack of funds, then splurges to go out alone or with his mates to watch other women. Well, the cure for that is to look up dates that don't cost much and enlist him as the one to accompany you. Also make things a little less cozy for him at your place. He's obviously way too comfortable with keeping your relationship behind closed doors. Like a lot of women, I know you hate that as I would too. You need to be the one to change that. As for other guys that want to take you out, sweetheart GO!! Him telling you he loves you shouldn't be a deterrent to going out and enjoying yourself. He is loving you in a way you don't appreciate, with good reason. As women we don't have to settle for just any kind of love, we have a right to be loved in the manner we deserve. That includes YOU! As you get out more doing the things you enjoy doing, you will feel less prone to be available for his 'behind the doors of the home site', style dating. TRUST! ';-)
2007-12-13 11:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go read this book:
The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right.
By Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider
2007-12-13 11:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on girls. To be in charge of such beautiful bodies means a certain degree of responsibility. You have to see through things like this and take appropriate action.
Dump the bastard. Others are waiting, but the good ones don't wait long.
2007-12-13 11:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes a jerk hes mistreating you you deserve better every girl like you does. Next time you get the chance to go out with another take it you wont regret it. Get rid of that guy he doesn't know how to treat a woman properly. Im really sorry hun
2007-12-13 11:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a lazy cheapskate who doesn't think he has to work to keep you interested. The fact that he doesn't like you going out without him, even though he doesn't make the effort to take you out, suggests that he is an extremely selfish person.
I think you should ditch him and have fun for a while, before going out with someone else.
2007-12-13 11:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump the cheapskate, how could you ever want to see someone who asks you to pay for him or you don't go out.
This is love?
Telling you he loves you is cheap enough, taking you out for a drink is past his pocketbook but he can take himself out.
I can't believe you fell for this loser, I'd lose him, quickly, too.
2007-12-13 11:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might be one of the following:
-cheap
-lazy
-bored with you
-embarrassed to be seen out with you
In any case, I think it's time to meet someone new and give your number to that other guy
2007-12-13 11:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Derek D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋