if a guy and girl get pregnant the guy has NO say in the pregnancy. it's between the girl and her girlfriends. One girlfriend says "keep that child, that guy got some good hair, good genes" the other girlfriend says " get rid of that baby, aren't we suppose to go to cancun next week".
A guy can only say 2 things when it comes to pregnancy. she says "i'm pregnant" the guy can only say "i love you so much, i'm soo happy, i can't wait until i'm a father" OR he can say to the girl "so what you going to do?"
A guy is NEVER allowed to suggest abortion he can't even say "A.." cause he will have baby drama. if she decides to go on with pregnancy when that kid is like 10 years old. the guy will say "how you doing little man" the child will say "i'm alive motherfcuker that's how i'm doing, you wanted me dead biatch, i should shoot you"
see guys we don't need this drama. just stay safe and use a condom properly
AM i right or am i right about guys on abortion decision?
2007-12-13 11:21:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
What do you think the guy means when he says "what do you want to do?" ...He is suggesting abortion right there.Men do tell women to get abortions all the time.
2007-12-13 11:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your choice is to wear a condom... or if you don't wear a condom stick around and be a father. And the woman has the choice to make you wear a condom. If pregnancy does occur the couple need to discuss all of their options together and with a counselor. In the end however the issue weighs much more heavily on the woman.
You helped make the baby, why should the mother be the only one to deal with the consequences (whether it's abortion or having a child)?
What it boils down to is that it's really, really easy for a guy to say "Get rid of it" or for a guy to just walk away. It's a lot harder for the woman to do either of those things.
I'm not saying this is how all guys act... there are a lot of decent, stand up guys who do the right thing and stand by their girl whatever decision she makes. I've known a few single dads too... but it still comes down to this, the woman carries the child inside HER so it has to be more her decision.
2007-12-13 12:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a guy should have some say in it.
I do believe both people should be responsible and use protection if they don't want a baby (or STDs). But, sometimes condoms break or other birth control fails. Should that occur, there should be a discussion about what to do. Both sides should be heard and taken into consideration. I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy suggesting an abortion.
But, the final decision is up to the woman because she would be the one to physically endure an abortion.
** The girlfriends are the not emotionally or financially responsible for the child. Their opinion should only be given slight consideration.
2007-12-13 12:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by kidfree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NO ONE's choice BUT the pregnant woman ... What makes you think that her and her gf's hang around telling each other to have an abortion?
Just like you, these "gf's" can only suggest options for the woman.. Even if a good friend suggested to me to get an abortion I'd still have a fit with her.. in the same sense that a man suggesting would cause "baby drama" In all reality.. it's only up to the female that is pregnant...
You seriously need to educate yourself and GROW UP. I hope you haven't got anyone pregnant.
2007-12-13 11:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by justplainsweet83 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree that people should practice safe sex....as for the abortion decision, you did help make the baby so you have a right to express your feelings about it, including suggesting abortion. She doesn't necessarily have to do it, but she shouldn't get mad either. If you end up prego, both man and woman should discuss ALL the options and figure out what works best for both of them.
2007-12-13 11:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm I actually have to say you make some helluva lot of points from what I have seen friends do/act (mind you I always said nothing to my friends w/ being pregnant other than 'follow your heart' and get ripped sometimes for it, but thats different and not the point)
I think that it's BOTH partners decision, and yea, it's the womans body, but I agree she shouldn't listen to her friends and blow off the guy, cause I think alot of guys do tend to get ripped by the woman (the wrong type of woman) and does leave them in crappy no-win situations.
But yea, I remember one of my guy friends who suggested abortion to the girl he was dating and she was ugh, monster is the nice word, and her friends and family made him seem like the worst person in the world (mind you as his friend I supported him cause of their circumstances) and now she is riding him years later about him being a monster, and the kid thinks he walked out on him and his mother when she walked out on him -- now thats crap that no one hears too. But man, from a womens view, I hear you, guys will not win no matter what with stuff like this.
PS: I'm sure you know some women aren't vain like the ones in your 'conversation' and actually care about the welfare of the child/mother and what might come down the line.
Keep it between the couple is what I say and leave the friends out of it!!
2007-12-13 11:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a million.No it would not offend me. 2. It would not offend me by using fact it somewhat is a trifling suggestion, no longer a actuality and it by no ability would be. and that i think of that adult males could desire to easily save their noses out of concerns that they won't be able to even start to appreciate in any case. 3. i'm no longer a feminist. My critiques are my very own, and adult males are only as entitled.
2016-11-26 21:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by molder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love how out of these 5 answers, only Kelly's even comes close to implying that women are in any way responsible for having safe sex. You know you're allowed to insist on a condom or some form of contraception right?
2007-12-13 11:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by Scott Evil 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that the guy should have some say, but ultimately it should be up to the woman. After all, it's her that carries the baby for nine months, while the guy could just walk away (I didn't say he would, I said he could). It's also her body that changes, and her that must deal with everything - the pain, the looks, everything.
2007-12-13 11:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they had the choice as to whether or not to use a condom....why shouldnt they have a say in the abortion? Just because the baby lives in the womb of it's mother does not mean the mother herself made it. They as in the couple made it together..so they should have equal says in the desicions about the childs life. However he was "cool" enough and "old" enough and "mature" enough to get her pregnant (as well as she was) then they should take responsibilty for their actions and be "cool" "old" and "mature" enough to handle it!
2007-12-13 11:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kris 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋