my hubby is catholic ( not really into it, but still has some beliefs) i was raised a JW all my life, ever since we moved in together we have decided to keep religion to ourselves, because we can never agree on some things. Now that the christmas season is coming up ( and i dont celebrate or believe in it) alot of situations are coming up that are causing some tense moments. Will we eventually find a way thru all this or is this going to be a life long fight??
2007-12-13 11:10:29 · 9 answers · asked by ♥ღ♥Babygirl♥ღ♥ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lifelong, amiga. Just think about when you have children, what it will mean to them when your believe XYZ about God, and hubby believes ABC. What will you teach them? Who is right? Who is wrong?
2007-12-13 11:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by RP 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Revelation 3:"15 ‘I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were cold or else hot. 16 So, because you are lukewarm and neither hot nor cold, I am going to vomit you out of my mouth." You can be refreshinly cold, or hot and invigorating, but lukewarm doesn't please our God. What I would ask myself if I were you is "how much do I really LOVE Jehovah?" If you don't know Jehovah, I suggest that you GET to know him. You do this by prayer and study and association with his people. Make it a priority for a while and see if you become either hot or cold. If you remain lukewarm you will not stay with Jehovah. You will leave. If you leave, what does it matter who you marry? What will make the marriage difficult is if you should later want to become "hot" or "cold" and there is this weight pulling you down all the time. This other person who does not love the God you profess to worship will not encourage you to remain a servant of his. Been there done that, still dealing with the consequences of it. I married my current husband during a time when I was disfellowshipped and I still have to deal ALL the time with the fact that although he is a "nice" person as the world goes, he doesn't love Jehovah and doesn't apply the fruitage of the spirit in his life, doesn't see anything wrong with our children doing things of the world that I don't approve of. He has anger issues and patience deficiency, so while we may come home all built up and happy from a convention or meeting, that happiness doesn't last long once he loses his patience or temper and expresses it. He is NOT a bad person, I'm not saying that. But when you crave the peace and love and joy that Jehovah's holy spirit provides and you can't even maintain it for a short time in your own home after feeling filled with it from the good association we have with our brotherhood, it is just SAD. If you were smart, you would become the sort of brother that ANY good witness young woman would want for a husband. Believe me there are plenty of sisters out there who are looking for a good man. Become that good man and you will have your choice of many. But in order to do that you must become either HOT or cold. No lukewarm, that just doesn't cut it with anyone who is serious about their relationship with Jehovah.
2016-05-23 10:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you still be a JW if you 'moved in together'? JW only move in together after they have been married... sounds like you had a little to do with sowing the seeds of your current dilemna... Gal 6:7??
Sometimes the truth in the bible becomes suddenly very clear..(2 Cor 6:14)
2007-12-13 14:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kilroy J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a difficult issue for the 2 of you if either feels particularly strong about celebrating (or not). I converted to a religion that doesn't celebrate Christmas, however, I am a guardian to a teenager who does.
I let her celebrate it by letting her decorate and play the music but I don't do any of that. She understands this is for *her* as I don't believe in it or celebrate it.
It doesn't bother me and makes her happy so I am fine with it.
2007-12-13 11:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by phillybookwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the extent that the two of you decide to "keep religion to yourselves," it will be a lifelong fight, as I'm sure you will each have certain religious traditions and practices that the other will refuse to participate in. The best way to make it work is to discuss the differences and find a compromise, rather than the hands-off approach.
2007-12-13 11:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Samsa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MARRIAGE BETWEEN DIFFERENT RACIAL BACKGROUNDS HAVE A MUCH BETTER CHANCE OF WORKING THAN A MARRIAGE WITH DIFFERENT BELIEFS!
IF YOU ARE SOLID IN YOUR FAITH AND HE IN HIS, IT WILL BE A LIFE LONG FIGHT.
HE WILL NEVER GIVE UP CHRISTMAS, FOR ON THAT DAY A 'KING WAS BORN!' THE BASES OF HIS FAITH!
YOU CAN ENJOY CHRISTMAS, TOO, IF YOU WANT TO BELIEVE IN 'SANTA!'
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO BEND A LITTLE ON THIS ONE!
MY COUSIN MARRIED A MAN OFJEWISH FAITH AND THEY CELEBRATE BOTH OF THEIR HOLY DAYS EQUALLY!
THE ONLY BAD PART IS THAT NONE OF THEIR CHILDREN HAVE BEEN BAPTIZED, SO MY COUSIN HAD TO BEEN A LOT FOR THIS TO WORK. NOT TO THE REGRET OF HER PARENTS.
TRY HAVING A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS!
2007-12-13 11:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by puzzled 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If 's only what you want to make of it. Do you really want it to be a hassle for the rest of your life?
Remember, you're married for life. Make it the best that you can. Choose your battles wisely.
2007-12-13 11:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Debra d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jehovah's Witnesses and Catholicism aren't two different religions. They're two different denominations of the same religion (Christianity).
2007-12-13 11:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jesus is THE "way maker!" Rid yourselves of both organized religions, and turn to Him, or just reside yourself to the inevitable.
2007-12-13 11:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Halfadan 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋