My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 months and he keep pressuring me to have sex I finally said yes we did it 4 times but I don't really like it. I'm tiny 5'5'' and only 72 lbs he 5'7'' probably like 140 he's not fat he just has muscle. It hurts every time I do it cause I am so small and hes so much bigger than me. What do I do?
2007-12-13 11:10:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At 5'5" and 72 lbs, you aren' tiny, you are anorexic, scarecrow thin and can be blown about in the wind like an empty plastic grocery bag! I can't help but believe you are also too young to be having sex also. My guess is this boy is probably a mid to late teen with too much libido and not enought brain.
Don't you realize that a man has 2 heads but only has enough blood to use them ONE AT A TIME?
You've known him 3 months, you played hard to get until you relented to his "pressure". That he would pressure you is not excusable but you showed weak character by giving in to "please him".
Be firm with the nut (no pun intended), tell him no sex until you are ready. If he doesn't like it, don't worry about it and above all, DON'T BE SURPRISED WHEN HE MOVES ON TO GREENER PASTURES!
2007-12-13 11:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know how painful it is?
have you talked about it with him?
it will hurt the first few times though, but by the sounds of it you dont want to be having sex anyway. TELL HIM, please, dont let yourself get pressured into it
if you guys discuss it with eachother and decide that you are ready to continue a sexual relationship, you need to tell him to take it slow. seriousley, he may think its ok, but you need to stress how important it is for him to be EXTREMELY gentle and really slow. perhaps let you control it. for example, if your going to have sex again, try going on top; that way he cant squish you so much and wont have so much weight on you and you can control how deep, or well in this case shallow, he goes.
its really all about talking about it, and if you arent ready to have a 'sex talk' with him than most likely your not ready to have sex yet.
theres no harm in waiting, it doesnt matter that you've already done it
you just have to do whatever you feel comfortable with
you could wait a month or two and then try again? its never going to be very enjoyable when its hurting so much, keep that in mind.
hope this was of some help to you
2007-12-13 19:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by ellen m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it hurts and needs to gentler by the way how old are you because weighing 72 lbs as an adult is really danagerous may be that's why it hurts when yuo have sex
2007-12-13 19:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rachele W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should never have given in. Dump him, he will dump you soon enough anyway. You are just something to bring him pleasure anyway. Wait until you are older and you will really enjoy sex with the right man and at the right time and right place.
2007-12-13 19:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about how you feel. If he is a true boyfriend, he'll understand and compromise and will probably drop sex or be gentle. If he does still have sex and it still hurts, you have to tell him this and make him quit. just talk, that's part and heart of a relationship.
2007-12-13 19:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jacky C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are very young. If that is so you should not be having sex at all. It could also hurt you inside.
2007-12-13 19:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by hermanthemagnificent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you dont wanna do it anymore and if he tries to keep pressuring you then tell him that if hes the guy you thought he was and if he cared about you he should understand
2007-12-13 19:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by MACaroni 'n' cheez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you dont like it quit doing it, I dont like that you said pressuring you to have sex, it might hurt because you arent ready
2007-12-13 19:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? and tell him you dont feel comfortable. no one should hide their true feelings. if you dont like something then speak up and express urself! you shouldnt be dating someone who pressures you to do things you dont feel comfortable with by the way..
2007-12-13 19:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by [Capture.Carolyn♥] 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he can go softer tell him that it hurts you sex is a vary complicted thing because people dont like to talk about it they just like to have it but in order for it to be good for the both of you then you need to talk about the things you like and the things you dont like....... hange in there sit him down and talk about it
2007-12-13 19:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by truelove 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋