I'm a divorce parent and seems like my son is growing and spending no time with me anymore, He go with his friends as soon as he comes to my house and plans all his day going from friends to friends
2007-12-13 11:03:46 · 22 answers · asked by Juan o 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
he is 13yrs old
2007-12-13 11:12:58 · update #1
Hello, I think you need to plan ahead with your son. On his next visit plan something for the following visit. Just talk to him. See what he wants to do and then schedule it, invite a couple of his friends to hang out with you. Arcade, bumper cars, movies, bowling or rollerskating. My son is 15 now and although he lives with me full time I have to deal with him wanting to be and do things with his friends all the time too. I also make sure not to embarass him in front of his friends, so if something occurs during our time out together, I will mention it, but don't make a big deal until we are alone and then we TALK about what happened together and discuss a better alternative for next time. Hope this helps!
Diamond9619
2007-12-15 01:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by diamond9619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you would like to spend a couple hours with him, catching up. Plan a time to have a meal together whether it's at home or at a restaurant. Cut the cell phones off so you can enjoy the time without getting interrupted.
He'll know it's just a couple hours and then he'll be 'free' to meet up with his friends or whatever and you got to spend some time with him.
OR
Do like Run did with his oldest son and take him to a resort for the weekend (if you can afford it).
Golf, tennis, running, basketball, fishing (whatever sport interest you two might share).
Teenagers are tough. I don't envy you. Good luck!
2007-12-13 11:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by st3psp8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Designed a fun father/son day full of his favorite activities. Let him know you just want to touch bases with him and spend time with him...he may not be to thrilled with the idea but if you plan a day together doing activies you both like it should be okay.
2007-12-13 11:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what his intrests are. Plan a day trip with him to some where fun. Take him to a game of some sort. He might be upset at first, but once he see's that he can have a good time with you, he will ask you what are we going to do next time.....Keep life interesting. You only have one chance to enjoy your child, don't pass it up.
2007-12-13 11:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by shanelytle73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your son is, but this is common behavior for a teen. Make a date with him well in advance to do something very specific. Make sure it is something he wants to do too, not just you. Remind him beforehand, and make it clear that you are looking forward to it. If you just want to hang out with him, and there is no specific plan, you will never get him to stay home.
2007-12-13 11:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before he leaves your house the next time make plans for the next weekend.. Tell him you would like some time with him and do something like going to the movies or out to eat or what other things you and he like to do together.. That way you can get time with him, before he runs out the door to meet his friends..
2007-12-13 11:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by gina67000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son?
Make plans for the next time he's at your house... even if it's doing something inside (if you have snow like we do).
A movie, dinner out instead of cooking, a father & son night...even Christmas shopping!
:)
2007-12-13 11:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by CDA~NY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
steal him...tell him it is daddy and him day and go to the movies or something he will enjoy...a couple of hours is all that is needed to share some quality time with him..he will not forget that...it is just a rough time since you are divorced and he makes plans with friends and such, more or less because he is hurt by all of this...if all you can get is a couple of hours it is better than nothing...but you have to put your foot down and take him...the best of luck...
2007-12-13 11:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by h_carlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him when hes free and tell him that you would like to do something with him and ask what he would want to do. The only way a child like him will want to spend time with you is when its something he really wants to do. Don't give him the I'm getting older speech it does not work. I know i'm a teen.
2007-12-13 11:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by Chelsea K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a growing kid this is normal. But tell him that you'd like time with him and like him to make some time with you. Buy tickets or take him to do something he likes. Whatever you do don't force him to spend time with you, this will only make him want to spend less time with you. Just ask him what he'd like to do and make it happen a baseball game, going to a race, etc
2007-12-13 11:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by ash 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋