afterwards all went in to the living room and your mother in-law takes out a book to read and your father in-law starts playing on his laptop...would you say something. I thought this was very rude.
2007-12-13 10:49:30 · 16 answers · asked by Jem 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've seen them do this with there own friends..so it's not just me. Usually there friends end up falling asleep on the couch or just leaving. With me and my husband though they have this way of making us feel obligated to stay.
2007-12-13 12:52:37 · update #1
We have tried many times to suggest games or something fun and they give us this discusted look like that's beneath them. This is nothing compared to the other things I could tell you about them.
2007-12-13 12:55:51 · update #2
I'd thank them for the lovely dinner, express my understanding that they obviously have things to do, tell them how I'd love to see them again sometime when they have time to visit, and be on my way!
That was totally rude, and there is no way I'd sit there and watch them entertain themselves whilst twiddling my thumbs.
2007-12-13 11:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ista 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could suggest that you all play a board game together or go out for a walk if you feel the need for more interaction with them. Apparently, sitting around in one another's company is enough interaction for them!
Perhaps this is what they did when your spouse lived at home and they don't feel the need to actually entertain you, since you are a member of the family.
Did they expect you and their child to do the dishes and they were just going to wait you out? Parents and in-laws have their own little house rules and traditions. Don't take it personally if they aren't into the entertaining because they may see you simply as family and not, in their estimation, "official" guests.
2007-12-13 19:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you expect them to do? Was dinner long with lots of conversation? Is this how they usually act? Do you usually get along with them or is your relationship tense?
Maybe they were just tired and that was their attempt at subtly telling you it was time for you to leave. Maybe they sensed that you have a bad attitude and didn't feel like engaging you in chit-chat anymore.
Not really enough info to say whether they were being very rude or not.
2007-12-13 19:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're at your in-laws I'm not really sure what you're expecting? Do you think when they invite you over you're about to have a fun-filled night of movies and yahtzee after dinner?
I'm not married to my boyfriend, but we've gone out for 5 years (I'm 20 it's not as weird as it sounds lol). I talk to my bf's parents and we watch tv together or watch the news after dinner if I go see them. Instead of standing by placidly, why don't you engage them...ask what book she's reading or ask your father-in-law his opinions on some of the latest news.
If it's late, they might have been trying to get you to leave but didn't want to flat out ask you to go and giving you a chance to leave on your own.
2007-12-13 19:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by jayjay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Thank you very much for the lovely dinner but we have another engagement to attend" ...go and give them a kiss , if that's what you do, proceed to get your coats and say "Bye" ...If they wanted you to stay, they should of had something planned(videos, games,cards)......Maybe next time you go to your in-laws house pack a few board games so all can participate.....
2007-12-13 20:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, that's very rude. Anyways, get used to it or leave immediately after dinner. Their behaviors in fact tells you that the evening with you has ended for them.
2007-12-14 03:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to hear about rude in-laws? We drive 7 hrs to visit family and my mother in law pops xanax and falls asleep HOLDING MY BABY!!! I have so many many other stories on this subject...Anyway, just know that you are not alone, there are mnay rude in-laws!
2007-12-13 18:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some families do that, thats why I never go to my in-laws for christmas day! Don't say anything, that's just what they consider normal - it is rude to us, but they don't see it that way.
2007-12-13 19:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by floppity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's apparent we somehow inherited the same in-laws. Like yours, mine are clueless, and totally self absorbed. When I reciprocated with equal rudeness, they told me without hesitation, that I should be more attentive to my quests. What a novel idea!
2007-12-13 19:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Pinyon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh please. How about the in laws inviting you over, having the food ready and 10 minutes after they eat they go take a nap.
2007-12-13 20:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋