Okay here is the story, there is a boy that likes me but i kind of like another boy, the boy that i like now i turned him down when i was younger (9) now he is friends with the boy that likes me. The boy that likes me asked me out but i dont know what to do, i dont want to say no because then people will be all up in my face asking me why and again most of the people in my school if you ask them they will say yes but unless they really dont like you. If i say yes (which i dont want to because it dont want to go out with him) i would be lying to myself and him but i dont want to break his heart. SOME ONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! Oh and the boy i like im not sure if he likes me but sometimes he shows a hint of jealousy, so does these other 3 boys te he. And i still want to be friends with him he is still funny. And please dont say anyhing about "peer pressure".
2007-12-13 10:40:07 · 14 answers · asked by scorpiomimikins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what some people really dont get is it is really hard for me to say no to ANYBODY when someone ask me for something that might mean alot to me i say go ahead and take it and for some reason i just cant say no it is so hard for me to say the word NO it is like my body resents it just like how i hate when somebody say's no to me i fell like i would have a heart attack
2007-12-13 10:54:50 · update #1
Get over yourself. That's what you should do. If you are soooo bad, why would you care who gets hurt as long as it isn't you? You didn't tell "these guys" to like you. Some ones heart is going to get broken anyway. You know it won't be you and you don't care.
"Oh and the boy i like I'm not sure if he likes me but sometimes he shows a hint of jealousy, so does these other 3 boys te he. "
Come on...
2007-12-13 10:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to date him than don't. There's no reason in saying yes just because you think that's what's expected of you. Just tell him that you're not sure you want to be in a relationship, or tell him that you don't want to ruin the friendship. You can even come out and say that you have feelings for someone else and you don't feel that's fair to him. It's not a hard decision, but don't ever lead anyone on if you don't really have feelings for them.
2007-12-13 18:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mystic-scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple Answer: Say No.
I take it you're not an adult yet, and so the best advice is to say no. Dates are harmless, but if you have no interest in the one asking you out there is no reason to lead anyone on. If you like the one boy, then try hinting to him to ask you out. Perhaps even suggest to the one who wants to go out with you that there is someone else you have your eyes on.
If you go out with the boy you likes friend, you're only encouraging him to NOT go out with you. No one wants to date their friends GF. And the same would most likely apply here.
2007-12-13 18:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Solace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is peer pressure if you actually care what others say if you turn someone down you are just not into.
You are not into the one who is crushing on you and that's normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Say no and mean it. It's better than leading them on.
2007-12-13 18:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha ok i wont
look if you dont like the boy that likes you say no who cares about the other kids in school do what you think and let everyone in your school get over it and the boy that you like ask him out if he says no you said if someone in your school asks you out they say yes so he probly will and he probly really likes you too he is just shy and jelous of the other guys that like you too go for it the worst thing they could say is no
hope this helps
<33 breee
2007-12-13 18:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would turn him down but gentlely if I were you.. I've been in that situation before and it is not right to go out with someone you don't like. I would want for the other boy you like.
2007-12-13 18:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Nessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are mature enough to say no to the guys you dont like and yes to the ones you do without fear of what others think, you shouldnt be dating hon.
2007-12-13 18:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. soo you have a problem. too make it as simple as possible just tell the two you don't like 'like that' that you would rather be really close friends with them. and then tell the one you like, that you have feelings for him. trust me, guys don't get as jealous of girls, they play sports...get a concussion..and forget about it all.
have a merry christmas btw :) <3
2007-12-13 18:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if this is one of your first forays into more serious relationships. So do you want freinds or would it risk it for an unknown.
Your intimation of 'jelously' is telling.don't go there .it;ll get you bad rap.
2007-12-13 18:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no point of being with someone u dont want to be with. YOU WILL BE WASTING HIS AND YOUR TIME AND SETTING HIM UP FOR A BIGGER HEART BREAK. JUST TELL HIM YOU ARE NOT DATING AT HTE MOMENT OR YOUR NOT INTO HIM LIKE THAT.
2007-12-13 18:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋