Is this Queer to you???....?

Question

I told my boyfriend his friend said he was cheating.

He got really mad and said- Can I call you back in a minute??

So he called his friend and said that his friend thought was cheating but he wasn't. My boyfriend seemed less mad after that but still was a little. He said he'd do anything to prove he wasn't cheating. I found it all a little queer... what do you think???
P.S. His friend hits on me a lot....

Answer 1

It would appear your BF's friend is trying to get you. How very queer.

Answer 2

How is this Queer?

Unless the friend is only hitting on you to make you think he is straight, when in reality he is the other person with your man!!

U know if this was me I would be suspicious to a point. I would think about his behavior! Has he been canceling dates, has he been talking on the phone in another room or hangs up right away? Does he always have a reason not to even come by to see you?

I told my husband from our first date that if he was to get involed with me and cheated, I would cut his stuff off. I am married as you see, but I am always droping this to him..

I would say that your intuetion has you wondering for a reason!!

Answer 3

Well in the first place i don't know why you would do that because you had to of known that your relationship would of ended in a misfortune and secondly what does your boyfriends friend have to do with this question and how is it queer that you falsely accused your boyfriend of cheating and he wants to show you that he's not I think the person who is queer here must be you.

Answer 4

Nothing really sounds queer about the situation.

If his friend hits on you a lot, he's not much of a friend. His loyalty is already suspect and he obviously can't be trusted to be honest. Consider that if you mess up your current relationship with your boyfriend, the friend is probably even more likely than your current boyfriend to cheat.

People don't change just because you think they will and he's not likely to value you any more than you currently value your boyfriend. He may not even realize this yet, but it's also possible that he may know that he's going to end up getting tired of you once the thrill of romance dies down and dumping you.

I know a handful of people who's entire dating history is composed of short-lived but passionate relationships where once the thrill died down, they learned that they didn't like each other anymore and split. It's like a roller coaster.

The smart ones realize after a couple of these that it was the thrill of the relationship that they were seeking and that the other person never really meant that much in the first place. It was more about just having a fresh relationship. I believe that some people are just addicted to "New Relationship Energy" which I know personally to be extermely envigorating.

If you're simply just trying to feel things out and figure out what you like, buckle your seatbelt because you're about to hit the drama train. I don't really know what else to tell you because it sounds to me like you're almost considering cheating on your boyfriend with his backstabbing friend.

If that's really who you want to be, go for it. More than just your boyfriend will learn about it and lose respect for you. It's totally up to you whether or not you'd rather learn the hard way though. I just hope you're wise enough to prevent yourself and everyone around you from getting hurt.

If you find yourself constantly being attracted to the "badass" guys, you're also going to find yourself constantly being dissapointed. It's my genuine belief that men who label themselves as some type of "badass" are just compensating for some lack of emotional security or have deliberately learned how to detach themself from emotion in order to overcome some traumatic event in the past.

Although they may seem strong and independant, they're actually deeply wounded creatures in need of a LOT of guidance before you can hope to tame them. Some of those problems can go pretty deep into someone's character and are often irreversible without some level of logical reasoning left over. I think I'm just rambling. I don't even remember what the question was anymore.

Good luck with your problem and remember, no matter what you do, "Think First."

P.S. This probably won't help to establish my credibility but if a woman told me that she'd cut my soldier off if I cheated, I would genuinely feel loved.

Answer 5

This question is badly phrased and hard to understand.

I think you are trying to say, B/f's friend told you that your b/f was cheating, you told your b/f who got upset and called his friend. Now your b/f is saying that his friend was mistaken and had thought your b/f was cheating.

There are WAY to many possibilities here, but the main point is: Why is your b/f's friend hitting on you? if hes telling you your b/f is cheating on you he trying to break you up so he can date you. So you have 2 options:

1. Tell your b/f's friend to get lost and tell your b/f that his friend hits on you. If your b/f does not drop him as a friend then you will have to "ban" this friend from your life.

2. Your b/f is cheating on you, so dump him.

Im pretty sure if you and your b/f break up that your b/f's friend will be all over you very quickly, im sure that this is a case of the friend wanting to steal you (but this is from an outside view)

Answer 6

uhm, do u mean ur bf is queer, or his friend. i hope your talking about his friend b/c the way you bf reacted was completely sensable. i would be p/o'd if my friend lied about me like that too.

PS doesn't it seem a little obvious that his friend is jealous and wants you, so he wants to break u 2 up?
[and suddenly everything clicks in2 place and i can almost hear the wheels turning...]

Answer 7

Not queer but it seems you already know his friend's motives are not pure towards you. I suggest you ignore your boyfriend's friend and never find yourself alone with him.

Answer 8

Hey..u r too young to understand the tricks of these boys...the person is miss guiding you for his own interest.it is queer for him not for u.relax and ignore your boyfrien's/ friend .That will serve him well.

Answer 9

Either his friend got some wrong information, or he just plain lied in order to get you to go out with him, or he told the truth.Time is the ONLY thing that will tell the truth here.

Answer 10

your boyfriend seems nice
you boyfriends friend seems like he likes you too thts not queer he is probly jelous of your boyfriend and yourboyfriend probly likes you alot
its not queer!

hope this helps
<33 breee