two weeks ago he broke up with me after a year because he suddenly didnt know if he loved me anymore and was tired. I was so upset and I cried so much (I still am upset). I saw him two days after and he had cut marks on his wirsts. we're 21 so its not a phase or anything. I got him to talk to me about it and he said he wanted to die now that we arent together. I asked him if he wanted to go back out and he said no, not now.
well then he started calling me a lot for about a week and now he hasnt called at all. he promised he'd call last night and never did.
hes acting crazy and I dont know what to do. because I dont want him to do anything to hurt himself but it was his choice to breakup! I did not want to at all.
2007-12-13 10:29:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does have depression issues frm abuse as a child. but hes been okay the last two years or so.
2007-12-13 10:44:01 · update #1
he also has depression and anxiety issues where he'll push me away every now and then. but hes never actually broken up with me or said he didnt know if he loved me.
he also use to cut before I knew him when he was in high school. but he hasnt done that in years.
2007-12-13 10:45:47 · update #2
Hi there. The best thing for you to do is take care of yourself. Are there any friends or family that are close to him that you can talk to? He may get a little angry if you involve other people, but your safety comes first. Many people would say that this is a cry for attention, and although I agree, given the world we live in it's always best to be safe then sorry. I would definitely seek the help of a close friend or relative to help him out. AS for you, make sure you take care of yourself and let the time heal the pain of the relationship ending. It may not be best to be around him right now, (as I'm sure it will be hard to do), but again your well being should come first.
2007-12-13 10:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Robby R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I just leave him a lone. He start this break up, because he didn't know he love you or not. Just not to call him or talk to him. He will get over it. At this young age things happen alot in short time and will get over it, I won't worry... I would move on with my live.
On the other hand if you are care about him, You have to know what is going on with him, fine out from friends or family. He might have alot of things bother in his life and you don't know about it. Fine out and be there when he ask. That only if you want to get back tougher.
2007-12-13 10:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Not ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i know this sounds dorky but you should probably tell his parents, or sibling or someone else who will be able to help him. If he is hurting himself, he needs to go to the hospital. You need to be happy and suportive of him. He will need it. If he does go to the hospital, then you should visit him as often as you possibly can. Trust me, he needs to go to the hospital or a psychiartrist to get some drugs that will put him into a healthier state of mind. He has what is called "Low Self Esteem". This is a stage of depression. Remember, his depression IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Some people have depression, and all you can do is be suportive and understanding until he is healthier. In fact if you find out he is hurting himself again, you need to take him to emerg. do not worry. lots of people have depression and doctors understand it very well. It could take a while to find out the right drug for him, but they will.
Do not pay any attention to the people who say he is crazy or satanic. they are ignorant. he is mentally ill, but will get better!
Best Wishes,
Confuzzled
2007-12-13 11:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by Confuzzled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, do you think he's serious, or just being manipulative?
If you really believe that he could do himself harm, then you should contact the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800)-273-8255 and they can direct you to a local help facility for him. If he really can't cope with your breakup he needs professional help and you are just not equipped to provide that.
If he's just trying to control the situation (with the whole not wanting to go out again thing) then you need to just leave him alone to get over it already. He made his bed by dumping you, and now he needs to lie in it.
2007-12-13 10:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm considering Nathan is solely saying that to Mia for the reason that he just needs to make her jealous. But if he rather acts VERY childish she will have to simply go away him alone. No person wants a infantile boyfriend like him.. How old are they anyway?
2016-08-06 11:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex said the same thing. Two years later he found another chick. If he promised he'd call last night and didn't, he hooked up with some other chick.
He can "act crazy" all he wants. You have your life to live. Don't buy into his drama and MOVE on.
2007-12-13 10:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is insecure and not sure what he wants out of life. You need to sit down and talk to him about this or it could get worse. And instead of waiting for him to call you why don't YOU call him? It could also be his past bothering him so ask him if he wants to talk about it...and if he doesn't wait a few days before you ask him about it again.
Best-of-Luck!
2007-12-13 10:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up the river not across the stream, he is playing mind games with you, my x told me he was gonna kill himself to, so being the kind loving x girlfriend that i was i told him if your gonna do it then get it over with already . 4yrs later and 2 kids from 2 different women later he is good, i think his problem is he dont want to be with you but he dont want you with anyone either and if he really did try to hurt himslef you should probaly call the parents and let them know that there kid has sucidal thoughts.
2007-12-13 10:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by CORONA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not feeling too well, and is probably confused about something, but also he is playing mind games with you and trying to manipulate you. I'd say bring some other people into the situation, his parents, mutual friends, counseling, he might really hurt himself, but you should not allow him to be hurting you.
2007-12-13 10:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by lampost blues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly has some issues. The worst thing that you can do is to take on his problems. You should try to get him to talk to a professional about his problem. He is clearly not well.
2007-12-13 10:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by TMull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋