would it be wrong to have a "real" wedding and not tell anybody.
some people in our immediate family know but have not told anybody.
2007-12-13 10:11:30 · 12 answers · asked by George C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't listen to all the negativity. I got married in secret my mother knows but my father doesn't. I have no regrets, if you did it for you and your loved one then no worries just plan your real wedding as if nothing happened. That is what my husband and I are doing. Congrats and good luck!
and to all of those that have been negative: Shame on you, just because some people do things I little different or are afraid of peoples reactions so they do it in private so the other people don't have time to meddle is there business and you shouldn't bash them for it.
2007-12-13 13:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there was nothing at all unreal about the day you got married. That was your wedding, and the only one you can officially have.
You can, however, have a wedding-like ceremony in front of your friends and family whenever you like. You can't get married twice, technically, so you may find trouble getting an officiant to pretend a wedding for you. (And you don't get a second license. You are already legally married and will not be granted one.)
I think it would be better to be honest about your marriage with your friends and family. Just invite them to an after-the-fact wedding reception (that's what I did, and it was great!) or do a vow renewal ceremony.
2007-12-13 14:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you can separate in your heart the day that you entered into the contractual aspect of marriage, from the social & spiritual day that you look into one another's eyes and in front of everyone who loves you, promise that person that you will love them and stand by thenm forever.... sure then go for it!
Just get a 2nd license, there's a little box they check that says second ceremony, this way your kids won't find a certificate in the attic when thwy're 10 and ask why it has the wrong date. Besides the witnesses never read the license. They just sign where I tell them to and nobody will notice. And if you're marrying in New York it is a misdemeanor to perform a ceremony without a license present even if you're married.
2007-12-13 12:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No, it is not ok to pretend to get married. It is lying to, and deceiving your friends and family. Let people know you have been married for whatever reasons (financial, military, etc) but that you still want to celebrate with them. Invite your guests to a vow renewal ceremony, or just a reception celebrating your marriage.
You can word your invitation as such
Brides parents
request the pleasure of your company
at a reception celebrating the marriage
of their daughter
you
to
husband
*Location, time, date, etc here*
Bride and groom were united in a private ceremony on the *5th of March* 2007 before Groom's military deployment.
By adding a little tag line at the bottom, you can answer any questions that people may have who have not yet been told that you are married.
2007-12-13 10:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by vanessa 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
My daughter did, and few people knew: they were married in Japan in Dec, and planned the wedding for early April in the states. It gave time to plan, and get everything in line, and she got the military benefits for having married the man. We say their anniversary is April, but she knows that it is not the real date---and it really doesnt matter!
2007-12-13 10:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne babe 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why have you not told anyone? If you are in deep love then do not worry about anybody else. And secretly YEAH for you!
2007-12-13 10:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by mindy112008 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is you and your wifes business, go ahead and have the wedding you want. no one needs to know.
2007-12-13 10:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by KMONEY831 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like an episode of 7th Heaven.
2007-12-13 10:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
not wrong at all.
a marriage is about two people. a wedding is about sharing it with your guests.
2007-12-13 10:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by chilly 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Why? What is the big secret about?
2007-12-13 11:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋