My ex and his brother are completely opposites. I've always been cool with his brother and never had feelings for him. He would check up on me to see how I was doing and sometimes I would check in on him and his daughter (this is while I was dating my ex). Yesterday I went to see my ex's brother at his job. I hung out at his store then afterwards we went out for drinks. Were TOTALLY on the same page with a lot of things and I like that, it's a good feeling. When leaving we hugged (a close hug) and I don't know what he was feeling, but I wanted to kiss him, but it's like I almost knew better and just couldn't, he's my ex's brother.
What should I do? I know that I have feelings for him, like something could be there. Him and my ex have each others back when it comes down to it, but they don't really talk.
When is this boundary okay to cross, if it is? If it isn't please explain why.
Thanks so much!
2007-12-13 09:48:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it's your own personal feelings. If you have feelings for you ex's brother, it's worth a try. It might now work out, and that ok! All I'm saying is that you should at least try him out for size! :-D
2007-12-13 09:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Meg! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Think about it this way: the reason most people date is to find the one person they want to be with for the rest of their lives. If you hit it off really, really well with his brother, you will be spending holidays with his family which includes your ex. Every holiday or time that you spend with your significant other's family, you will have to hang out with your ex. If you end up marrying him (which is very possible if dating goes well), you will be related to your ex. If that doesn't weird you out, at least think about how it will make him feel. If it was a messy breakup, or your ex still has feelings for you, he will probably feel awful every time he sees you with his brother. If you like his brother you should care about his family too...which means you will need to be on good terms with your ex if you decide to pursue a relationship with his brother.
2007-12-13 09:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no longer cool once you're attempting to marry this guy some day, yet communicate on your ex to confirm how he feels. He would desire to be comfortable with it in case you clarify the type you 2 connect so nicely. If he cares approximately the two one in all you he will elect you the two to be chuffed, yet while it extremely is in simple terms too strange for him, then you definately would desire to attempt no longer seeing the two of them lower back out of appreciate. yet once you think of his brother is your soul-mate then your ex will would desire to get use to it. if so it would desire to be a physically powerful ingredient that the brothers are not that close. You adult men does no longer would desire to confirm him plenty. At lease no longer once you're collectively.
2016-10-11 05:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by dolme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason you and your ex slit up. There is no reason why you can't date his brother. Unless you were engaged to your ex then I would say don't go there. But if you are still friends with your ex try talking to him or have his brother talk to him and see how he feels about the two of you dating.
2007-12-13 09:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The line is never good to cross. Best friend, family member, are off limits for the end of time.
There are soooo many men out there, don't be lazy, go out and find another that you don't have a history with.
If the shoe were on the other foot, I'm sure you would think it awkward.
2007-12-13 09:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are comfortable, open, and honest, that is ok.
It is always a little awkward, but if you really like him, there shouldn't be anything that precludes you from dating him.
I think the most important thing is to just bring it out in the open. It's always worse when there is a *surprise*.
And you don't have to say too much to your ex, but maybe a little head's up.
2007-12-13 09:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dr's Delight 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really think you should talk to you ex about it.. Or at least let him know that your hanging out with his brother and take it slow, slow enough to where it don't hurt your ex.. If you really think that there is something then find out slowly don't rush anything..
2007-12-13 09:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old is he.. wait no nevermind.. do you like him... or spur of the moment kind of thing.... it sounds like a match i know he is your exs nrother but he seems nice and i think you two re connecting... i thnk you are on a good point there really is no boundry.... if you like each other than who cares about your ex... i think that you have feeling for him and he does for you so go for it
2007-12-13 09:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Dev<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your ex is any form of man he will have held lis head high and moved on. He shouldn't mind if you date his brither if you have even reasons as to why you are doing it, which you clearly do, so i think that yeah, you should date him. The real question here is, are you sure that he really likes you???
2007-12-13 09:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jaws 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if he thinks his brother would mind if you two went out. If not, then go for it. But i wouldn't if this is going to cause friction between brothers.
2007-12-13 09:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by jamzm2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋