I am having a debate with a friend of mine, so i will like the honest truth. Also included with the answer i will like a logical explanation of why you chose the way you did. The one with the most persuasive answer gets the 10 points. THANKS!
2007-12-13 09:30:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think it's wrong to like someone else. crushes happen naturually, whether we want them to or not, and usually go away after time. it's just wrong to act on those feelings by betraying your boyfriend/girlfriend.
2007-12-13 09:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, it probably depends on the situation.
Here are a few:
Married Couple, 30 yrs into the marriage--and he starts to really like the out-going woman neighbor who just moves in.
She complains but seriously (the wife that is) doesn't mind the time alone to get some tasks done & knows that he's someone she can trust & that its a crush.
They have survived several of these over the last 30 yrs, so one more isn't the end of the world. (She has been guilty too.)
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Another way it may be ok, is you are late 20's, your baby-clock is tick-tick-ticking away & his isn't.
You find this amazing guy who's the same as you--you meet while window-shopping at a baby store for a girlfriend (he for good friends).
And you have a serious talk w/ your current & he's not anywhere CLOSE to getting there, but meanwhile your friendship is HEATING up with the new "friend".
Sometimes, biology trumps love.
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Where it may not be a great idea is when you are upset that your person doesn't like that one thing you sort of like (not something you do on a reg. basis, and not something that changes your life but it is something you do like to do)...
So it all comes down to who do you pick? Are you going to leave your person to frollick in the snow 1x a month or so with your "new" friend who you have a crush on?
OR b) if you simply have a crush on someone while your person is away (due to whatever reason).
A crush would be if you were more in love with this person, than relationship you have with that person...(if you met 2x, and you're "in love" well sorry sweetie, its a CRUSH)...
But its hard to beat chemistry, so chances are it happens A LOT, but most ppl never admit or talk about it
2007-12-13 17:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by belligerent assistant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't need the points, so the answer is the truth as I see it. Dating is the process of deciding who you want to be with (maybe for the rest of your life). It is exactly the time to look around and compare. Through movies and television, dating has been construed to mean the time to sleep together before tying the knot. In that scenario, you are committed to one another as if you are married. It is not only NOT wrong, it is a very mature approach to life.
2007-12-13 17:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to like somebody while going out with somebody else. Of course, the question is do you still like the person you're going out with? If you don't like that person then you probably shouldn't be going out with him/her. Now, when it comes to liking both of the people that's fine, you're not committed to either of them in any significant way and unless you've made some sort of deep commitment to one or the other it is natural and right for you to ponder the idea of being with a different person. The key thing is not to date just one person exclusively until you are very committed. Otherwise you should spend time with as many people you like as possible and get to know what kind of person you're looking for. But it's perfectly fine to like more than one person at once, even if you're going out with somebody.
2007-12-13 17:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong. We all still find other people attractive, it's human nature. The only problem is when you act on that lustful feeling. So it goes back to that old saying...you can look but you cant touch. As far as flirting goes, I don't think you should act on that either. If you think that fondly of a guy, you should probably break up with your current bf/gf. It's obviously not fair to them. Looking is fine, as long as you would rather look at that person than the person you are with!
2007-12-13 17:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Someone somewhere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you only kind of like the person then it's okay sometimes but not if you take it to far. If you find yourself liking the person more than your bf/gf then you need to do something about that cause that just doesn't work. I was just recently put in this situation where I was going out with this guy and I liked this other guy who also liked me. I felt bad cause me and the other guy flirted and eventually found out I really liked the other guy better so I broke up with my boyfriend. Later to find out - I was right and that my boyfriend did smoke =[
2007-12-13 17:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by me. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are dating one person and thinking romantically about someone else, then you are not ready for a commitment to them. You should date several people who are different so you can determine which type of person is right for you before you make a commitment to just one person.
2007-12-13 17:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Frosty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are attracted to this other person but like the person you are with more!! Its normal I think.....
But dont leave the person you are with for the other person because the effort you put into getting to knw the current person will be done for nothing!!
Sit back and think about it, who you would be happier with, including all kinds of circumstances.... once you have decided then make your choice!
2007-12-13 17:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by Resor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to answer a ? with a ?, but do u think there is only one person in the world you can like? People bring all kinds of qualities to the table for us and we can like many, some or none of those qualities. Hopefully we are with the person who has the most qualities we like.
2007-12-13 17:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by To Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are into someone else you should break up with the person you are with. Why be in a committed relationship if you want to try other people? It's actual selfish on your part because you are keeping the person you are with from finding someone that does want to be committed to them.
2007-12-13 17:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by always an opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get the hotz for someone, just don't act on them. I've been married since before there was dirt, I've been attracted to a lot of people, I just keep the goodies for my hubby. Finding someone else attractive can also work in fantasies.
2007-12-13 17:35:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋