a neighbour of my parents died a couple of weeks ago. He was still working and only in his early 60's. He left a wife and grown up sonwho lives away from home. I live with in walking distance and I knew them enough over the past 10 years to stop and chat. He and his wife and son have always been friendly to me, but I'm not close to them, as in good friends. Should I send a christmeas card this year? Would you?
2007-12-13 09:12:55 · 12 answers · asked by purplepeace59 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes i would to cheer them up! let them know you do care about them even if you don't really know them...this is the season ...Merry Christmas
2007-12-13 09:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by craZykat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you sent them a Christmas card the previous years?
If you have, then yes, continue the tradition of sending them one - only make it out just to the wife and write in there "sorry for your loss" or something.
If you haven't, then you need to make the decision as to whether you want the wife to think you just feel sorry for her and are sending her a card or not.
2007-12-13 17:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes why not. every year i write a Xmas card in it i put the usual stuff hello hope your well wishing you and yours a happy Xmas's and a great new year. but on the envelope i write for the address "to whoever". i know its childish to think the the post office will deliver an un-addressed Xmas card even though its stamped to a random address on the posties run. but i know dear god and dear santa letters get delivered somewhere.
2007-12-14 14:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by givethegiftofarsemagicthisxmas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would send a christmas card attached to a casserole or a restaurant gift certificate. the poor woman lost her husband right before the holidays, so she probably won't feel like cooking. deliver it in person. if she's home, perhaps she'll be in the mood for a neighborly chat.
so nice of you to think of her.
2007-12-13 20:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Julie N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not send a Christmas card this year(too soon) wait until next year.
2007-12-13 22:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would---just to let them know (the son and mother) that they mattered, and that the dad made a difference in your life, or that they were special to you, and he will be missed.
The families of deceased feel often like they are now forgotten because so-and-so is no longer there, or they are now not part of a couple, and it is all so difficult with lifes changes. The survivors need to feel that they are heard, that they can go on, their loved one is missed, and that they themselves matter now.
2007-12-13 17:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanne babe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you`ve sent cards in the past then yes send one again,if you don`t it`ll seem like you`ve dropped all interest in them.
2007-12-13 17:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by mookno1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look in the card stores sometimes Hallmark makes speciality cards and they might have one that will convey your thoughts. They are very good about that
2007-12-13 17:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Diane B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes send them a card
but not saying merry xmas or anything like that
say something like you are thinking of them at this time of the year
2007-12-13 17:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by magic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course! It'll make them know you care and not just another empty face. Do it.
2007-12-13 17:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋