high self esteem vs low self esteem? question for all girls.?

Question

would you go out with somone who has high sel esteem but does not respect others ..or with somone who has low self esteem but respects others more than himself..explain please

Answer 1

The low self-esteem probably, that way you can them help build themselves up, but with the arrogant type, it's extremely hard to get them to look past their selfishness.

Answer 2

Hard one. I am really attracted to men with confidence, but if they are rude and disrespectful, it is a huge turn off. I guess choosing the lesser of 2 evils, I would choose the one who respects other. I give everyone respect unless they show me they do not deserve it. I get made fun of sometimes for saying yes ma'am to the young girl at the counter at Taco bell, but she gets my respect just like everyone else. I could deal with low self esteem as annoying as it can be, there is a reason for some people to have it. There is no reason to be an ******.

Answer 3

Oh no no no...your definitions are off. Please understand, ppl with high self esteem should also respect others - IMO, having genuine self esteem means recognizing EVERYBODY's needs, and respecting them all. Someone who does not respect others sounds like an arrogant a$$, not a person with high self esteem; please do not confuse arrogance with true self esteem. I would not want to be with a person who does not respect others because, hello, this person will not respect YOU - you will just be another satellite in their orbit. Now, a person w low self esteem can also be a problem - if in fact you are truly looking at someone with low self esteem, and not someone who is merely shy about asserting him or herself. Ppl w low self esteem can often be incredibly needy, constantly needing assurance that you care, or that they are desirable, etc etc - so in an ironic way, they can be just as demanding as the arrogant a$$. Or, often times the one with low self esteem will actually drive away the date , because they "just can't believe you'd want to be with them."...so they make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nope, the person you want to be with is someone with self esteem, a person who does not need you, knows he or she does not need you, but CHOOSES to be with you bc of what you both bring to each other.

Answer 4

Low self esteem. It would be easier working throw all there problems with them as long as they are not abusive due to the lack of esteem. They would probably be more understanding and loving in a relationship.

Answer 5

I would go out with neither. I like a guy who has a healthy self-esteem. That means that man I would date isn't cocky and he also isn't always complaining about not being good enough. As far as treating others, I wouldn't date a guy who disrespects others no matter what his self-esteem is like. I like a guy who shows consideration to other people. How a person treats others isn't always linked to self-esteem.

Answer 6

They would have to respect others and respect themselves, so the dont get pushed around by other people.but all in all, high self esteem, cuz guys with high self esteem are great for shy girls cuz they make them come outta there shell.

Answer 7

somone who has low self esteem but respects others cause the otherone is probably or IS jerkish with the other choice i would just mess around w/ him but afterwords drop him like a female would drop a emty mascara tube a guy w/ low self-esteem is cute but a little annoying but if he respects me then he gets extra points

Answer 8

low self esteem, i want him to respect me, that is a key factor in relationships

Answer 9

high self esteem. i need someone that loves himself! and you have to earn other people's respect!

Answer 10

neither of them.
low self esteem will feel threatened by others and be able to love people if he doesn't love himself
a good person must respect others