Im in 9th grade and my boyfriend is in 10th. I love him to death. When we've been making out lately, hes been getting kinda "happy". i know he wants to have sex but i dont. he hasnt been pushing me to have sex tho. i want to know how do i have fun making out with him but him not getting as "happy". wat do i do?
2007-12-13 08:27:26 · 64 answers · asked by *GinnyG* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can I just say all these users telling her not to have sex or make out with her boyfriend to cool it! she has already said she doesn't want to have sex!!! Her boyfriend isn't pushing her, she loves him! She just wants advice on how to keep the little fella down!!
Im guessing your 15 or 16? Im from the UK so I don't really know grades to well.
Your not ready for sex and thats fine.
Your boyfriend may not just be "happy" cause he wants to have sex. It may just be he really enjoys kissing you! As far as I know, theres not much you can do when your making out to stop him getting happy..except stop making out! But who wants to do that!?
Try just accepting that the little soilder will stand to attention when your really getting into making out...try not let it put you off..wait until your comftable before going any further!
Enjoy!
2007-12-13 08:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Really I hope you do not think I am preachnig to you, but wait until after high school to have sex. I think sex is just way too complicated for the social environment of high school. Things may be great right now and and carefree, but if the two of you break up, what will he say about you? Not that you should care about gossip, but I think people in high school do not have enough maturity to treat these matters with the respect of a loving relationship. Also, if you start having sex this young you up the risks of having a teenage pregnancy, and is this something that you could handle? Birth control is not also 100% effective, so I would keep this all in mind. If you wait to have sex until you are in a healthy adult relationship you will feel better and more secure about the act. Even as an adult sex can be a tricky thing and ruin the best of relationships, so it is best reserved for a stable and mature relationship.
2007-12-13 18:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't control about him being 'happy'. I'm in the exact same situation, except both of us are in 9th grade. He's told me that he'll only go as far as I want, and he's not pushing me either, though he does try. But I move his hand and he doesn't force anything. You really can't find a way to make out without him being turned on. Just because he gets 'happy' doesn't mean you have to have sex or should feel pressured at all. It's just natural. He can't control it either. So just ignore it and have fun doing what you're doing now.
2007-12-13 08:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you would be about fifteen and him about sixteen. Boys start thinking about s-e-x at about age twelve so he isn't going to blow up or suffer excruciating pain. I suggest you don't make out so much or something just may happen and its much better if it happens on your wedding night.
The chance of a marriage lasting if both parties are virgins is increased by about 40%. If one tries several partners then marries the person is never really happy with what they have and keep looking for perfection and there is no such thing. I was in the military for 20 years and often had to council young marrieds and found this to be the reason for a lot of breakups.
2007-12-13 08:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress! Guys, especially is his age range get 'happy' very easily. My bf is much older and still gets an erection over the most simple kiss or touch and we don't always have sex as a result.
Here's what I can say. He's more than likely used to getting aroused and not having sex result from it. Guys have they're own way of taking care of it later if he wants or needs to. Don't feel pressure to have sex if you don't want to yet. He'll get aroused regardless of what you try to do to avoid it. Just let it be, it's just a physical reaction. Just because it's there doesn't mean he necessarily wants or needs to use it.
2007-12-13 08:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bitches get Stitches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a normal reaction for guys when you are making out with him. The only thing you can do to not get him so "happy" is to not make out with him. I know you probably don't want to hear that you are too young, but honey you are. Making out leads to sex and you are way to young to have to deal with everything that comes along with having sex. Enjoy your high school years, get involved with school activities and/or clubs and try to keep your mind off of having sex.
2007-12-13 08:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jay's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him but understand that boys that age get "happy" if the wind blows. It doesn't mean that he ready to have sex. It's a natural reaction to the body. Talk to him about waiting though at a time when you two are not physically involved. It will be a lot harder to say no in the heat of the moment.
2007-12-13 08:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Leaf 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend does not need to have sex to satisfy his err... "happiness". Love is defined as the feeling that you love someone so much you only want to stay with them. Sexual activities and love is different. Don't worry too much.
But don't have sex.
the majority of the states in America has a 16yr old min requirement for having sex. if your boyfriend is over 16 and you are under, then your mother can sue your boyfriend, and he may go to jail. if you are both underage, it would be stupid for either sides to sue, but it is nevertheless illegal. making out, and having sex, can both transmit diseases btw...
2007-12-13 08:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try shorter sessions, or less contact. There's no way to stop "happiness", especially not in a teenage boy. Good luck and stay true to yourself. Sex with the right guy is worth waiting for, so blow off any pressure you're getting from this guy or your friends. Its ok to wait for marriage if you want to and that 1 special someone (keep in mind that this guy might not be the right one, or the keeper).
2007-12-13 08:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im a guy and maybe my perspective will help. Sure he may be wanting it but in your best interest I dont think you should do it if you arent getting as "happy". You dont want to do it and then regret it; it will follow you for a very long time. Besides, you are very young.
2007-12-13 08:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by jnez33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋