Is this Depression?

Question

Is this Depression?
I'm 14, Freshman.
I'm very pretty, and funny
But I don't usually talk to people I don't know, Im shy like that... but im not a quiet person.
I'm talkative and very smart.

But, I HATE SCHOOL (for the most part)
Classes bore me.
I get my work done in the first 5 min., then do nothing or read my novels.
I do however love Band and Art. (I'm an artsy person, but not emo or anything like that)
I'm an average person
I dress well
I'm nice, and funny
HOWEVER

I HAVE NO REAL FRIENDS
And I get lonely.
I don't trust anybody, because all of my friends have screwed me over some point or another.
I'm very mature for my age
I'm already planning for college, and know what I want for future career.

What can I do to be happier?
Am I Depressed?

Could it be Clinical Depression? And if it is should I be embarressed?
My brother had it when he was my age, and that fact always embarresed me.

I'm not like mopey I want die..
I'm more like mopey "GOD I WISH I was in college or out of school with my career, instead or in highschool wasting my time."

Answer 1

I doubt if it's depression. Every child hates school and there are plenty of children who don't mix that much.

Answer 2

It doesn't really matter if you fit the criteria for depression. What if you don't, and you arent' "depressed". Now everything's OK? All those feelings you're having mean nothing? What if you are? Now the doctor shove's happy pills down your throat and your life has a big depression cloud hanging over it.
The main question to ask is if you're happy with your life right now. This will probably not be a simple answer. There are probably some areas of your life you're happy with and some you're not. But this is defined by you. You are the one who decides if your life needs improvement, because no one knows you better than you. Some people just don't like school, and just get through it the easiest way they can. Some people love school. There are no right or wrong ways to feel about stuff. Right for you is a better way to think about it.
Some people will tell you they have it all figured out and know how people are supposed to live their lives. Dont' listen to them, even if they're the Pope, Dr. Phil or the president of the United States. Nobody really knows. All you can know is what's good for you and what makes you happy.
And if you decide your life does need improvement, then seek out all the help you need. Help can be doctors, books, friends, recovery groups, educational TV shows and so on. But you will be the one who ultimately decides what advice and help you will take and what not to listen to because it's not helpful.

Answer 3

Well.....in reading what you said.......I would say that you definitely love yourself....that is good to a point......you were also good at stating all your attributes... pretty,funny, very smart, very mature, and you know what you want for your future. I guess the question you must be asking yourself is, if I am such a good person with all these wonderful things to offer my friends.....why are they screwing me? Right....It can be two things..............they are jealous (which I know that's what your going with.) Or you are not all that you say you are,and YOU are the only one who hasn't realized this YET. And if you were as mature as you claim to be, being embarrassed about depression is not a very mature attitude. Depression is a disease...............It's a hard fact of life when you realize that you are the one messed up and not the world! You aren't there yet, but being friendless, it won't be long! I am not trying to be harsh but then again you weren't trying to be very modest either.....you need to try a little humbleness!!! You are fourteen, you will never be fourteen again....ease up......your not supposed to have all the answers you think you should.....you are normal.....you have nothing to be depressed about if all the things you say about yourself are in fact true...... and I believe most of them are. I know you will understand all of this because you are very smart. also ......this is how you spell embarrassed........and now you can be!

Answer 4

It just sounds like you have an introverted personality. Perhaps you only think you're depressed because you're comparing yourself to more outgoing people in your school.

The best way to tell if you have clinical depression is when there's a sudden change. If two weeks ago you never read books or planned for your future, but loved to mingle and meet new people, I'd say there's a problem.

But if you've been this way for most of your adolescences, it's just who you are. Just accept yourself. Highschool is tough but eventually your life will take you to people who are like you and you may make some good friends.

Answer 5

Looks like everyone else has covered this pretty well (you sound normal but lonely) but no one has said that I saw that depression is nothing to be embarrassed about. It's like getting a cold--you didn't do it on purpose, it didn't happen because you are a weak person, and you can't force yourself to get better. Don't be embarrassed for your brother, or for yourself if you at some time develop depression.

While I don't think you're depressed, it would probably help to find an adult to talk to about your unhappiness with the friends who hurt you.

Answer 6

It sounds more like you should be tested for a gifted program. Or ask your parents to ask the teachers for more challenging work. As for knowing what you want to do as a career that's great, in order to challenge yourself why don't you do some research and get as much information on it as possible?? Contact the local college and see if you can do some classes there for college credit. Let you parent know that you;re bored because it sounds more like boredom than depression. It might lead to that if you don't do some thing about the boredom.

Answer 7

Is it because you trust no one that you have no friends? The best way to make friends is to be a friend. I used to feel that way too, but it was because I was trying to figure out who I was and my purpose in the world. My best friends are friends who I reached out to when they were the lonely ones; there is always someone else feeling the way you do. Also, depression is more than just feeling lonely; it affects you physically (lack of sleep, change in appetite, loss in interest of activities, lack of motivation, etc.).

Answer 8

I don't think you're depressed...
Maybe you're just going through a phase..
I think you just need to find a real friend that won't screw you over..
You should look for someone that have the same interest as you, so you could get along better...

Answer 9

Go to a medical professional...school nurse/counselor/etc. Talk about your experiences and see what they tell you. Depression does run in families and there's a genetic cause. Check it out...help can make a big difference.

Answer 10

you spend too much time thinking about yourself and the way you interact with others. Just put the whole thing out of your mind and go on with you life.